Most Helpful Guy
I'm Going To Give You My Unlicensed Professional Opinion, Over Time You Will Feel Better & Be Able To Move On. Time Is A Key Factor So Allow It To Past & Try & Stay Positive...
Most Helpful Girl
Wow I am so sorry this has happened to you. :( This is never fun to read on GaG even from strangers. If there is any hope of you two working on your marriage again, then YES, the trust statement he laid out for you was a way for him to figure out your reaction to it. If you felt like you could work on your marriage and said you needed time to learn to trust again then it could have given him something to think about. You're over 45?--putting him somewhere at least 64? He absolutely sounds like he is NOT dealing with growing older very well and made a rotten mistake.
If you have ever read my responses before you'll know I'm a believer in second chances and trying to make things work if I think that one or both people really do want things to work and there is still real love there. You might want to ask yourself if you can live the rest of your years with what he's done and knowing that you are both going to start a new chapter of your marriage working things through, or can you imagine going the rest of your years without him, and starting the next chapter of your life on your own or give yourself time to find someone new.
I really wish you well, and if you decide you need time and space, he needs to know this too so that he has some indication whether or not your marriage still has a chance.