Me & my ex were together for 5 years, we did fight a lot about the past he lied to me about somethings. Which I never could get over. It was really hard because I trusted him I felt like if he really loved me he wouldn't have lied to me. We tried making work, I wanted him to be romantic & adventurous but he never even tried. I would cry myself to sleep because I always questioned if I really loved him or not. He has been calling me to hang out, he says we can work things out. But I just don't feel the spark between us. I don't know if I run back to him because I'm comfortable or because I love him. Also I'm scared that I won't find a sweet guy. I don't like getting hurt.
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I hear you and I know how you feel, you can't change a person though and don't ever make yourself love somebody. I went through the same thing with my ex back in August 2013 and it wasn't easy but now I see it was totally worth it. My ex and I argued a lot about our past and stuff and things weren't the same like they used to be. At least he didn't cheat on you like mine did. My ex wasn't ready for a relationship and he didn't know what love was. If it makes you happy to go back to him then do it. But only if it makes you happy I made a mistake of going back to my ex, and then started questioning myself and then realized he led me on and he just left me in the dirt. I was sore and weak in my legs and everything but my soreness has healed and I actually fell out of love with him so proud of myself it took me about 5 months. But something I learned is that it isn't good to go back to an old love because you may end up getting hurt just like I did. And another bit of advice if a guy really likes you or you really like him get to know him before you decide he is the one you want to fall in love with. Don't be scared, if he didn't treat you right then he doesn't deserve you and you don't need to run back to him. My ex treated me like a dog, lied to me, we got into an argument he told me to go to hell, etc. He never made time for me or anything I wasn't a priority in his life. Let him chase you, do not chase him because it'll show that you are desperate. Don't run back to him so quickly because then you'll start second guessing yourself I know I did. I've been hurt a lot emotionally in relationships by how my ex didn't treat me right but I learned a lot from my last relationship. Don't fall in love so quickly that you will hit your head. Do you really love him, or do you love the thoughts of being with him? Think about it for a second. I don't think he really loved my ex when he asked me back out I think I just missed the memories but not him.0
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