I've only been in love 4 times. After the third one I decided I was gonna be a whore because I was so angry. I wanted to feel better, I thought screwing a bunch of girls was the answer. I thought it would be more difficult than it was. I guess I'm more attractive than I thought. But they all started falling for me. I would break it off. Then I met one I actually wanted to be with. She would tell me I was perfect and that I make her feel so beautiful and cared for. I didn't smother her, I literally didn't put any effort into going over and above. She started calling me babe and baby and sending good morning texts and calling every day. So I took a shot on it and it's been two months. She dumped me today because she said she can't handle the anxiety of always knowing she's not good enough. It sounds like bullshit to me. But I don't know. I haven't walked in her shoes. But every girl says the same thing. The thing is, is I don't cater to them. I have a backbone and I'm not afraid to call anyone on their shit. My instinct tells me she feels like she doesn't have the upper hand, and that's not a position she's used to having I guess. I feel like she's terrified of getting crushed. I'm not sure. I don't know what to think. My question isn't how do I get her back, she obviously has issues that aren't my place to deal with, my question is do any of you girls ever feel the same way she says she feels? And why are girls so eager to have sex and fall in love but once I return it they say that? Why would she chase me so hard for so long just to panic and jump ship? And why does this happen the exact same way every single time?
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Sounds like you don't know anything about her or any of the other women you've dated. You seem to be highly attracted to damaged women who are insecure with low self esteem. Possibly even women who suffer from depression and/or are bipolar.
I dated a guy who looked like a freakin model, he was as smart as a whip, and extremely charming. After the 3rd month I started to see a different side of him. He was completely insecure, always apologized for the way he looked, always called himself worthless and stupid. He accused me of cheating constantly, est. He was a wreck. Now I ahd seen the signs prior to that, but I ignored them. He actually didn't change, I just noticed how damaged he was after we had been dating.
If you KEEP dating women like this you have to NOTICE THE SIGNS BEFORE you start a relationship. IF these are the only type of women you date, then YOU ALSO HAVE A PROBLEM. Its not normal to constantly get attached to these women and/or pursue relationships with them.
Perhaps you should not have sex with a woman unless she commits to a relationship with you? That way you won't be confused as to whether its just sex or if its a serious emotional relationship forming.0