Divorced 2 years ago. Last several months we've been having sex just for the fun of it. Mutually agreed at the start to just be sex with no expectations (initiated by me) well our communication and Co parenting has been going better. However, I wanted to stop the sex... it's just getting us nowhere and even tho I just wanted the sex it does cloud the brain and I want to move on, this is just staying stuck! So I tried not responding and being busy. . afraid to just come out and end it because I don't want to wreck how far we've come. So then I even "picked a fight" and acted like a unreasonable jerk, so he'd back off but that hasn't worked either. Today I had to see him (stuff related to kids) and as hard as I tried to keep my distance he was persistent and I caved.. again not wanting to destroy our communication... so yeah figured easier to just have sex rather than discussion. . now I am so mad at myself now... guys - help out here.. lat 2 weeks I've done everything to push him away. . yet he still isn't going away.. does he want us back together but just can't say it? Or is this just easier for him? I even asked him today to go find a girlfriend so that we won't have sex again. . He laughed and said no way, there's no one else that sure he has friends but nothing happening with any of them. ...
Most Helpful Guy
Let me get this straight, you tried to maintain the improvements you made in 'communication and Co parenting' by 'picking a fight and acting like a unreasonable jerk' instead of just openly saying what you want and don't want?
You might want to seriously revise how you're approaching this.0
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Most Helpful Girl
The 'EX' that has Obviously Marked His 'X' in his heart, Has it Branded in His Head as well, and not just the little one, but his Big one as well, that You and him are Still this item, His private 'Hands off' possession, and without setting him straight, for now it's getting Harder with your Excuses and your 'Picking a fight' on purpose.
With your so-called '... Our communication and Co parenting has been going better,' with This should Also mean Your Open lines of Honest Communication should be this as well. However, I see your point, you're in between a rock and a hard place, now that you have opened up a can of 'Bedded down' worms which is Now Hard to-------Stop the sex.
I do believe, for you seem adamant in ending the misery, that you should sit your Ex soul mate down and have a chit chat with him. You have to be honest, you have to tell him how you feel. However, in doing so, I have to be Quite honest------It may not only destroy our communication But-------Your relationship altogether now and forever.
Good luck. xx0