My ex and I have been broken up for two months now. At first it was hard but I think both of us have gotten over the sadness. After the break up I tried to get back together with her I didn't beg or do crazy things, I just tried to convince her we should meet. She refused both times. After that I stopped trying. We have the same friends group so we want to remain friends. We've Been having a hard time staying friends she's always been getting mad at me and trying to make me jealous. Then after she denied all of it. We've had a few arguments here and there mainly because of her finding reasons to be mad at me then later saying it was all because she thinks it's weird being around me. She then told me she's been having a hard time at home and she's been really irritated lately. Well I decided to call her last night and check up on her we talked she gladly opened up to me and told me all about what happened at home. We spoke. for like 45 minutes she never seemed to want to hang up. We talked about not fighting anymore, random things and then I told her I was tired and went to bed. We ended on a really good note and hopefully it stays like that. After two months I still want to be with her. I've been working out, I'm happy again. I've had time to think and I still honestly think we can work if we try again. We broke up because she wanted to be single since she hasn't been that way for a while. We fought while we were together towards the end because we were always stressed out with home life. She refused to get back together because she was sure if we did it would be a repeat of the previous relationship with all the fights. How can I get her back over time, and get her to fall back into love with me without scaring her away?
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Now my answer is long winded so you have to bear with me while I go off on tangents, but I just copied part of my post from another question because I think it fits well here too:
But anyway, the solution, proven to work so far, I kept myself constantly busy with work, friends and playing games overnight when no one was there to distract me, soon my obsession subsided but the feelings are still there, after about 6 months we started to talk again over coffee, about fun we have had while we were apart, which turned into fun we used to have together, keep each meeting short and don't show too much interest, maybe meet once a fortnight at first and never place blame of the breakup while you talk, it's ok to admit where you went wrong, she will see you are learning, soon it turned into her inviting me to hers instead of going out for coffee, and it has even gotten to the point where we have had a kiss on the odd occasion, but don't let it get to your head, it's just a kiss and she may still be cautious that you will go back to how you are now, I for one know there's still a long way to go, I hope you can understand
understand the basic points of my drawn out rant, and hope it helps, you will have to work hard but with a lot of patience, self confidence and control you can make it work. All of which can not be faked0
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