hi im 30 years old, i been with my girlfriend for about 3+ years. i recently caught her cheating on me. she's 25. she's been with 3 other people during our course of the relationship. she left a lot of evidence in the phone which i got and shown right back to her. she was stunned, and didn't know what to say. i asked why she did it. her response was because she had the freedom to do so. i believe at the time she was really mad more so the fact that i got information through the phone. the pictures are explicit. furthermore, they are some of the actual person all lovey dovey she seemed pretty happy and interested. i have so much strength to look at these pictures and not feel anything what so ever. i guess its because it was a premonition of mine. i didn't talk to her for 2 days. and on the 3rd day. i picked up her phone call. she wanted to meet. i already knew what it was about. i met her, simply because i felt sorry for her. when me met i told her there's nothing she could do at this point to hurt me. i been there in a previous relationship and I've done all of this before. im still a gentleman and my demeanor hasn't changed at all. for i knew she couldnt appreciate a great guy. she admitted to f-king up, she was so apologetic and wanted to fix things. she said the reason for her cheating was there was certain things lacking in our relationship. for example she wanted our own place, so one guy had his own place. one guy was more intimate and nicer than me. im like wtf so everything we lack you'll find in someone else? she said those people dont mean anything at all, i laughed in my mind. i ask if she's gonna cheat again she said no. i was like okay, ill give her a chance to fix things and salvage our relationship while i experiment on her and do me. i know im supposed to have some dignity and blah blah. but at this point IDC, im fine. i guess im wondering if she is being genuine or am i just being a cushion for her guilty feelings. how should i treat her now?
Most Helpful Girl
Sorry, but no way is she genuine!! She isn't capable of it. She cheats because something is lacking in your relationship? NO, she cheats because something is lacking in HER. She has proven the fact that it isn't a one time thing AND that she can't truly take responsibility for her actions. ("I'm really sorry, but it wasn't REALLY my fault"...) I wouldn't waste another minute on her (but I'm jaded, LOL!)1
Most Helpful Guy
You are too nice a guy. You seem to deal with it with a amazingly cool head. She might change but she obviously is wanting something more in life. Maybe you are not the man for her but she just can't make a life choice. You need to make that choice for her, walk away.
If there was any real love between you both then this wouldn't be happening but it has so you have to question why you guys are together and is it worth it and for how long.1
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