We´ve been together for 7 months. It has been the perfect relationship (Even though we live an hour apart for now) We were both soo much in love :)
But a month ago she stared going through some planned life changes.
- She got a new job
- She started a new school
- She joined a new sports team (She´s a serious athlete)
She is the type of girl who always commit 100% to what she does. She wants to get good grades at school, be the best employee at her work, and impress at her new sports team.
So... She told me she needed to "think about us" as she was unsure about her feelings. I was pretty sure all the stress in her life had push her feelings aside...
2 weeks passed by and now she dumped me.
It was a "good" breakup...
We layed in bed, talked nice to eachother.
She told me what I asumed all along. She couldn´t handle anymore, her head was stressed out. So much had been going on, she didn´t have time to herself. I could feel she really meant it.
I even tried to ask how she had felt doing the past 2 weeks (I was a mess these 2 weeks), and she replied: I haven´t had the time to feel anything yet.
Then she said:
I know this is hard for you, but I really really need for you to be my friend right now.
I know that you are the one for me. No doubt about that. But I just need to be myself right now.
I got up and left her house. She hugged me 3-4 times on my way out the door, and told me: Please keep in touch, but I understand if you need some time...
So where do I go from here.
I am very sure that we will end up together again, but how do I play it from here? I am thinking a No Contact for about a month? And then just shoot her some random text after that?
Is it completely hopeless for me?
I really need to hear more from girls who has been through these periods of their life as well
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No it's not hopeless for you. Dude what she means is, she needs time to herself, she has all these things going on in her life with school and sports. I'm not saying let go of her, but be there for her when needed. Like if she's having a bad day, be there to listen to her and hear her out about her day and what happened ect; Not only give her time, but give yourself time to pick up the pieces or at least keep yourself occupied. While she's busy doing her, you need to do you. She wants you to keep in touch so that's pretty clear. (: message her in a week or two, see how things are going, catch up a bit y'know? I hope everything works out.
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