Now I have personally been going through a lot and I guess you can say I leaned in my ex. I just needed emotional support. My dad is sick with a debilitating disease and hasn't been doing good since February, my grandpa was diagnosed with cancer, my parents are having financial problems, I'm having kidney/bladder problems etc..
Now I asked for her to be there and might have came across as needy and weak and I think she lost attraction. I just didn't want to lose her and that was my biggest fear. She also might have felt I was holding her back because I was "needy". But I was never like this and really just needed support. Everything I did before we broke up was all unintentional (btw we dated almost 2 years)
Now that were back at school she approached me and wanted to talk. The only bad thing I ever did intentionally to hurt her was last week bring a girl home from a bar infribt of her. I know I was an asshole.
Is this unfixable?
How do I get her back?
Do you think she will come back?
- She will come back
- She won't
Most Helpful Girl
I would say the only way you can get back with her is to cut off complete contact with her if she asked for closure then do what she wants and she will question as to why you are listening to her when u have been so persistent in getting her back and all of sudden stopped! So do that she will def come back to you and don't tell her about ur problems she will think of you as a weak person and it's a turn off I know ur going through a lot but trust me you have to be able to handle tough times like this all by yourself and she will see through it.. So for now completely cut off contact and don't bring people over or anything just give her closure and space trust me she will be back sooner than you think
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Most Helpful Guy
my ex broke up with me a couple weeks ago. i feel ya man. shit threw me off gurad, fucked up my life for a couple days there bc i was wrecked from it. the realization that life goes on, and stayin positive is key here. you got this though. you should first ask why do u want to get back with her? make a list of pros/cons... if you realize u do in fact want her back after that, then you need to go about this like a ninja. thats a big plus she came up and talked to u man. just play it cool. dont come off as needy. in fact, thats fucking bullshit of your ex to assume your weak/needy from all the shit your goin thru. u deserve better than that man, u know that old cliche there's plenty of fish in the sea? well its true.
if your still considerin gettin back with her, then you need to slowly..;key word here... talk to her again, and show her the new and improved you. dont come off as needy, show her ur the same dude she got with way back when when y'all first started datin.
i got nothin but good vibes for you and your family man, i wish y'all the best, seriously. lifes a bitch sometimes, but i know y'all will conquer through and succeed in the long run. good luck man.~