I was with a guy who really just wanted me for sex.
He told me a lot of lies and what I wanted to hear. I was naiive and I believed what he told me. I trusted him and I thought he wouldn't lie to me.
He told me such nice things- like about how much he cares about me, how great of a girl I am, how attractive I am, how good of a match we are, why I'm a girl he would like to date, etc.
I just believed him. And he was spending so much time with me. I really thought he liked me.
I'm just so confused because the guy I thought he was is clearly not who he is. the person I met and the person I broke up with are completely different.
Every single one of my friends tells me that he is a jerk who was just trying to get some and that he manipulated me. But I feel attached and I can't believe he would do something like that.
How can I get over this? It is bothering me a lot.
I find myself justifying his behavior and trying to make him out as a good guy and I'm blaming myself for being stupid and wasting my time with him.
Does anyone have advice? I would really like to feel better.
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The best thing you can do for yourself right now, once you get past the twisted emotions, is look back at everything you remember feeling when you were around him.
Not the good emotions...
But the warning.
It was there. It's called your gut instincts.
And it was telling you... He only wants you for your body.
Isolate that voice, the words of caution- and never forget them. Yes, it will go against what your heart desperately wants to believe. It will fight you when you are looking at some new guy... Telling you he's no good. When you want to think he's perfect.
One day, your heart and your instincts will tell you the same thing, and that is when you need to listen.1