I broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago. We dated for a year and for the most part it was a good relationship. The last couple of weeks something was off. I'd back away then he'd back away. We tried to talk about something being off but I think in the end I got frusterated and broke it off. I think I was afraid that he was acting distant because he was going to break up with me ir that liked someone else. I'm pretty sure now neither of these were true. I broke up with him over the phone. He seemed shocked, like he didn't see it coming. I regret breaking up the way I did. It was stupid and insensitive of me but I was afraid. I tried to talk to him a few days after the break up but it just ended up being a long heated discussion.
I tried texting him a week later and eventually called him. I wanted to take ownership for my part in the break-up , something I had not done in the previous conversation. He wouldn't answer my texts so I was surprised when I finally called him that he picked up the phone. He barely spoke 2 words to me but did listen to what I had to say and then hung up. Before we hung up I told him I wouldn't contact him again.
We are back in school now and it's very ackward. He won't speak to me or look at me directly. Although I do catch him staring at me and looking at me in classes. One of his friends told me my ex was "really out of it" but that he was " pretty mad". The friend also asked me if I would ever date my boyfriend in the future. I wondered if he was asking out of curiosity or because my ex was curious.
He just began to take our pictures down off his social networks. He only took down a couple of the more recent ones. I took all mine down a couple of weeks ago.
I really loved this guy and miss him as my friend and would consider dating in the future. I have stuck to not contacting/trying to talk to him. How do know if he still loves me and if he might want to date me again in the future? Is there hope?
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You fucked up, instead of flying off the handle with your crazy reaction to his aloofness during the last few weeks of you guys dating, you should have just asked him what was wrong. I don't really know what happened but it seemed to me you just got scared and broke off the relationship on a hunch. Now both of you guys are sad, you are the one that needs to fix this, and he needs to express his feelings when he's down.
Personally I think you're a shady bitch for what you did, but you guys are young so it's understandable.0