We've been together for two years, he proposed to me on our one year anniversary. We've always had a great sex life, however we have a five month old daughter and our sex life is almost completely gone. I work nights and he has to be up by 6am so we don't see each other as much. For the past few months (and randomly throughout my pregnancy) he gets really distant. He'll come home from work and complain of being tired even though I'm the one who takes care of our daughter all night. He'll go on his ipod in the bathroom for at least 45 minutes, eat dinner/watch tv and go to bed. He doesn't so much as say one word to me or show any affection anymore. I worked my as* off to get in shape, I am even hotter now than before I had the baby. I've talked about this with him before and he promised he would try harder to show me affection but it only lasts for a few days and he goes back to doing whatever he wants. I feel like a single mom! I'm usually the one who initials sex, I try everything to spice things up and nothing works. I feel like I am the only one trying in our relationship and I don't know what to do. He tells me he loves me but I don't feel like he does anymore. What should I do? I really wanted to marry him, he is the one who wants more kids and to get married I never pressure him about it. However, I just feel ignored... I don't know if there is someone else? If he is bored with me? Is this normal? I can't spend the rest of my life feeling overlooked and taken for granted but I always want to give him another chance.
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Speaking from experience I did the exact same thing your fiancé did. I'm not proud of it, and for the past 5 years it's haunted me.
We had a son together and for a good while after he was born I ignored her. I can't imagine what she went through and what you are going through.
The fact that that you are trying so hard and even got hotter and he is still ignoring you that's bad.
I'm not saying break up here. Far from it
What works with guys is "jealousy" go out with some co-workers. Post pictures on FB about the night out. Show him what he is missing out on. You can even take pictures with some guys. What I think guys do is once they've proposed they think their fiancé is set. But once you shown him that "maybe" some other guy is taking notice it might wake him up real fast0
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