was with my ex for 6 months and i found out that he cheated on me with different girls. We split 2 months ago but have seen each other frequently and stayed in contact. Most of the times we have seen each other during these 2 months we have kissed, cuddled and even slept together. When we are together he tells me he still has love for me and misses me. I dont actually believe what he says because of his past lies but i love him and i miss him so so much. I have tried to hate him but i cant. I never want to be in a relationship with him again but i want him in my life. I text him today and told him that I miss him, it felt like a real urge, compulsion to tell him that i miss him. I know he doesn't have any credit to text back but wondering now what he must be thinking. Wondering if it will freak him out or if he will like it that i have told him. Really shouldn't care what he thinks but i do
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I think he still loves and cares for you. Obviously you both are still emotionally connected. There are two paths for this to go. You need to do whatever you can to break it off with him. He cheated on you. You should respect yourself to know that you don't deserve that. You need to cut off all communication with him and go on a cleanse from him. Maybe not meet new people, but hang out with your girls, travel, go do fun things and focus on getting better for you. Workout and exercise, try new things, focus on making yourself better and create distance between you two. Avoid the temptation to contact him. You need to focus on you and moving on from this. You deserve better, and a new person who won't cheat on you or hurt you. That's not healthy. Then later on after a several months, you can bring him back into your life as friends at least.
Other path, you can try and make it work with him. But you need to work with him and commit to that's what your decision is. If you want him, have a discussion with him. You need to know exactly why he cheated on you and what his reasons are. You have got to know all the details to then decide if you really want this guy back. Good guys can make bad decisions. You need to figure out if you can live with yourself if you stay with him after all he's done to you/for you. If you decide to stay with him, try and talk stuff out to him. Both of you need to put your feelings out in the open to know where each other stands. Then decide if you can move forward together and put this behind you.
No matter what you do, you need to commit to one or the other. Being in the middle like this isn't healthy for you either of you and it isn't any fun to waste energy like this. Having it in the middle like this is too painful I'm sure, and you're missing out on new experiences, having fun, and a new you or building a new a relationship and perhaps future with this guy. What do you want? Pick one or the other. And do it.0