Just looking for ways to keep my mind busy... I don't want to date either.
Most Helpful Girl
Yes. Dating won't necessarily make you get over your ex faster. Dating just provides a distraction. There are other ways you can distract yourself. Find a new hobby or jump back into an old one. Take a class, go to the gym. Focus on building your confidence and self improvement.
None of these things will necessarily speed up the process (including dating if you choose to do so) but they'll help you feel better about yourself.
Don't feel bad if you take a while to get over your ex. The longer you were together, the longer it will take for your heart to mend.
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Most Helpful Guy
Yep. Number one she's not your ex. I know it sounds weird but it really makes a difference. Think about your best friend from kindergarten. You probably remember them but may not hang out with them anymore. You don't call them your ex friend. That's just (insert your old friends name) we were friends back in kindergarten. Do this girl the same way. She's not your ex she's just a girl you dated. She's ____, we dated a while ago. I noticed this when my dad talked about the girls he used to date. He would never say that's my ex it was just I dated that girl before I married your mom. Or I used to be married to that woman. And had no problem continuing on. As long as you keep saying your ex your gonna feel a sense of connection. Like your mom or your dad. Those people have a permanent position in your life. But it's not real it's just how your brain thinks about it. The your triggers the thought that you and this person share a connection that is unique and still binding. Your car your house your family. Our brains aren't always the clearest things in the world. So think she's not my ex she's just a girl, a girl that you dated for a while. Second, accept it. You've gotta accept that time moves in one direction and at this moment you and that girl aren't together down the ride something may bring you back to one another but for now it's done. You've just gotta accept it. Third time. You've got to just give it time if you just dive into a new relationship all your gonna do is hurt someone either them or yourself. Take it slow and give it time. Good luck0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE