I thought of some some subtle mistakes I made that opened me up to getting jerked around by her again.
“No one will ever do or say anything to you that you don’t invite them to do. If you allow someone to come into your life, start jerking you around and you continue to tolerate their bad behavior, you are asking them to do it to you again. By your tolerance of their bad behavior you enable and invite them to continue mistreating you. If it’s a lover you really want, a job you want, a business deal you want to close, a new friend you want to have, a rock star employee you want to hire, etc., you must have a point that if they push you too far, you will walk and never look back. In every negotiation in life, and make no mistake about it-life is a constant stream of negotiations, you must know your outcome & the minimum terms you are willing to accept before walking away from the deal or relationship. If you don’t, you will perpetually be disappointed, not get what you want and have people walking all over you. You don’t get what you deserve in life, only what you negotiate.”
Whats your thoughts on my theory?
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Your (borrowed) theory is correct.
You need to have lines, and communicate them.
Blow your ex off the next time she makes plans, because I doubt she apologized or made-up for canceling on you 45m before you guys were to do something.
Be sure to tell her that you don't like getting jerked around, and that that's not a good look on her.