Hi all. I've been seeing my guy for about 10 months now. Things have been going great, we really enjoyed spending time together and our time away from eachother. We both have a lot of things going for us and we celebrated them together. Earlier he had been telling me things like his heart always wants to go wherever I am, that I inspired him to pursue his passions and that he really respected what I did. He tried to give me the keys to his apartment because "mi casa tu casa" and we talked about our future together once I finished studying (which is in half a years time).
However just 2 weeks ago, he found out that he had an incurable genetic illness and suddenly told me that we should stop seeing eachother. He didn't say any reason other than that he was confused and had no time to deal with it and so we stopped contact for two weeks.
Yesterday I was able to find out about the illness and I was completely shocked. What confuses me more is that he's gone back to his ex because he feels she's in a better position to support him financially and that she has now moved back in with him just in case he faints again. What strikes me as odd is that he still refers to her as his "ex" when she has technically become his "girlfriend" again. When I asked him why he wouldn't let me look after him, he only said that he didn't think i deserved to be dragged down by his s*** and that there was no way he could just take a young freespirited girl and ruin her life with his problems (I'm 23, he is 30). I asked him if this is the end but he said he would never wish it to be the end that he wished we could get even closer.
I'm confused by his actions. What exactly is going on inside his mind? I'm still in love with him and I'm so sure he is too. Is he just with her because it's convenient?
He moved here for her.
Since arriving here, he says I am the first true friend he has made (as he does not like her crowd)
Prior to meeting me, they had been broken up for a while. He dumped her
Most Helpful Girl
When guys are in love they enjoy being the provider and protector. It's in their nature. When they become unable to do so many feel ashamed, worthless and even depressed. Those who don't mind this either don't care about you as a girl, or produce no testosterone.
If he has become ill and is with his ex now, it means he is using her. If he is deceiving her, that's low if you ask me. But he cares about you and doesn't want you to think of him as "less of a man". He is trying to protect you.
If his state is getting progressively worse, or if it will bring you to be widowed in twenties, or thirties if you end up with him, listen to him. Don't linger around him. Don't feel guilty about it.
Just move on and forget him. Nothing else you can do.
If you linger and walk away when you see him at his worst it will ruin what he wanted you to remember him as, and it will cause you ten times the pain and guilt you would have otherwise felt.1