Hi all. I've been seeing my guy for about 10 months now. Things have been going great, we really enjoyed spending time together and our time away from eachother. We both have a lot of things going for us and we celebrated them together. Earlier he had been telling me things like his heart always wants to go wherever I am, that I inspired him to pursue his passions and that he really respected what I did. He tried to give me the keys to his apartment because "mi casa tu casa" and we talked about our future together once I finished studying (which is in half a years time).
However just 2 weeks ago, he found out that he had an incurable genetic illness and suddenly told me that we should stop seeing eachother. He didn't say any reason other than that he was confused and had no time to deal with it and so we stopped contact for two weeks.
Yesterday I was able to find out about the illness and I was completely shocked. What confuses me more is that he's gone back to his ex because he feels she's in a better position to support him financially and that she has now moved back in with him just in case he faints again. What strikes me as odd is that he still refers to her as his "ex" when she has technically become his "girlfriend" again. When I asked him why he wouldn't let me look after him, he only said that he didn't think i deserved to be dragged down by his s*** and that there was no way he could just take a young freespirited girl and ruin her life with his problems (I'm 23, he is 30). I asked him if this is the end but he said he would never wish it to be the end that he wished we could get even closer.
I'm confused by his actions. What exactly is going on inside his mind? I'm still in love with him and I'm so sure he is too. Is he just with her because it's convenient?
He moved here for her.
Since arriving here, he says I am the first true friend he has made (as he does not like her crowd)
Prior to meeting me, they had been broken up for a while. He dumped her
Most Helpful Guy
Well since you mentioned the financial part I think he maybe has some financial issues he hasn't told you about either and feels that it would be better off if you found someone probably closer to your age. He probably needs more financial help than you can provide at this time and you being younger and finishing school he doesn't want to be a burden to you. You should probably just move on and find someone else to be happy with, you are still young and have plenty of time for love! But he shouldn't be looking to you for financial help anyway that is not what relationship should be about. True there is no romance without finance but it seems like he is hiding something!1
Most Helpful Girl
I'll be honest and say yeah maybe he is just being a gold digger with her and needs help financially however something just doesn't sound right to me.
He's gentlemanly enough to not drag you down with his sh*t but not gentlemanly enough that he doesn't think USING someone for their money isn't morally wrong? That just doesn't match to me...
How long has he been with his ex? Because if him having a genetic illness is true it sounds like he would just rather go through this challenge with her instead because he genuinely cares for her more but he's being nice in telling you basically an equivalent to the generic break up line "You deserve better"
But you know him well enough by now to know if that would be plausible or not. I'm thinking it's a possibility because the gold digging gentleman in love doesn't quite sound right.0