So last year I got involved with this girl that already had a boyfriend. Normally I'd never do something like this but at first I didn't even know because we were just hanging out and then it was so magical and I couldn't describe it that I just went along with it we both did. After a couple of months we both figured out that it was more than just having fun because we were both really affectionate and everything. After a talk we told each other it was more than just fun we actually fell in love with each other. But soon after that she got scared of something and broke it off with me and told her boyfriend. They decided to stay together and everything was great for a couple of months. But then she figured out she couldn't be without me and came back and asked me for forgiveness and broke it off with her boyfriend and wanted a relationship with me. We were completely in love everything I could wish came true but again she got scared and dumped me and ran back to her boyfriend.
We broke up really badly because she really hurt me and in revenge I wanted to do the same back to her we got into a huge fight and didn't see each other for three months. Even though I missed her and once tried to talk to her we kept our distance. Now she showed up back at the activity where we meat. The thing is we had another huge fight because I was hoping she was keeping her distance. She told me she doesn't give a crap about me anymore even though she said a couple of months ago I was the most important person in her life. She said she's not going to stay away anymore. The thing is that means I have to stay away and this means something that has helped me trough a lot of tough times and I won't be able to do it anymore because she's there and I can't take it.
What can I do? How can I handle it? If I stay home it's going to depress me even more.
Thank you for your help.
Most Helpful Girl
In all honesty it's not even worth giving up something you obviously enjoy. She's one of probably many people who might really hurt your feelings but to revolve the situation around her your subconsciously giving her more control over you and you may not realize that when your around her. From your story it seems like she knows that you really cared for her which for some people they get off on that. To be honest with you it doesn't even sound like she ever cared for you or her boyfriend. The fact that she was willing to cheat instead of just breaking up with her boyfriend shows that she's not trustworthy and really just a waste of time and energy. It's easier said than done but you really need to look at those memories as they were, as false. The more time you allow her presence to hurt you the longer it will take to just move on. Again that's not worth it either.2
Most Helpful Guy
I had a girl do the exact same to me. Easier said then done, but forget her! She's not worth your time, worry, aggravation, etc. I know it's sounds cliché, but there are plenty of other women out there, ten times better than she is! But you need to stop dwelling on her to allow someone great to enter your life. And what is this activity you go to that she also attends? The gym? Guess what? F*ck her! Keep yourself in shape, ignore the crap outta her... And if she tries to come back to you, disregard her completely. Don't give her any other chances! She doesn't deserve you!1