My ex (20) and myself (23) of 15 months broke up in June and spent the summer going back and forth on where we stood. This was all her doing as she was the one to initiate the break-ups and the getting back together. The reasons ranged from being overwhelmed with schoolwork, to most recently depression (august). She told me “how can I love another completely if I can't love myself?” so I told her over a very clean break up that I was letting her go so she could “find happiness again for herself,” while still leaving the door open for the future. Then about 3 weeks ago I found out from a friend that visited her that my ex was “attracted” to this 31-year old guy whom she is a good friend with and works with at her volunteer ambulance corp. he just got promoted over the summer. My friend also said my ex didn’t seem like herself and that she gave off the appearance that she’s moved on. She also said that she thinks they haven’t done anything or that it could work because my ex and this guy are “too good of friends,” but that could have been a lie told by my ex.
i think my problem was i lost a bit of my inner-alpha and struggling to find full-time work in my field after graduating may have contributed to her shift in interest to this other guy.
i haven't seen her in one month and I'm asking her to grab coffee this week to see her before i move an hour away to start my new job. I've got so much going for me right now with that, my new place and a whole new environment. she just called me to ask if i was on her netflix account just now, we talked for a few minutes but she seemed out of it and called me dude at the end...
how do i handle this meeting with her coming up and this situation in general? what can i do at this meeting and in the future regarding her to take back the power and put myself in the best possible situation?
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Don't worry about her, she is off doing her own thing so should you, you deserve better, she should of gone back and forth witth you. I suggest you keep your chin up high and do what you need to be doing (new work, new place new environment) that WILL give you NEW romance!0
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