ok so I've been dating a girl for a month , all went fine, doing all the bf/gf stuff, kissing, intimacy etc... and things seem to go the right way. out of the blue i received a text message, after visiting her family and friends in Poland , ( she is a single mom ) saying that we cant/ aren't allowed to be together. she really seemed into me, but ok to keep it short. she started acting weird, at work she hardly talkd to me, went hot and cold, flirted with me once. she shows some serious traits of borderline pd, to make things more complicated. 5 days ago was her birthday, we haven't spoken to each other for 1 week, she blocked me, on fb and whats app, for no reason. i had 2 keycxhains with a picture ffrom her and her daughter in it at home. i had them made before she came back and i received that confusing message. yesterday i deceided to put a small note along with the key chains in an envelope and gave it to her. it said, these keychains belong to you, i want you to have them, because it makes me feel good. they belong to you. the picture inside means a lot to me, because you shared that moment with me. by the way i haven't forgotten about your birthday.
its not me being needy or to friendly, she is the one who left me for no reason and who can't give me closure, not that i want closure, i still like her a lot, and can't see what went wrong.. if its borderline, there is not much i can do. one moment they love you, the other moment they hate you.. it feels wrong for me to give her something she doesn't really deserve, thats what my mind is telling me, my heart is telling me, i did the right thing. i dont hate her, and i dont want to. something special did happen between us, so im honourable and still let her know that she plays a part in my life by letting he rknow tha ti haven't forgotten about her birthday. did i do the right thing, i want a normall contact with her
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I think you absolutely did the right thing. I don't know what's going on in her head when she broke up with you or what her reasons were but your a great guy and you deserve closure. Her and her child may have a place in your life but since you are no longer together and she is busy sorting out issues I think it was best that that key chain didn't stay in your possession and that it was handed back. Using it as a birthday gift was accseptable because in all honestly just handing it to her and saying you made it for yourself because you care about her and her child woul dmake her feel guilty and then you would be wrapped up in whatever issues she brought back. The best thing for you is to find a woman who is ready to settle down and make a family of your own. You deserve that if not more. Hope I helped xx1
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