Ok my ex, I wanted him to come see me on my birthday, he said he would and it was getting late so I messaged him asking if I should wait for him. He response was 'what u been up to'. Basically avoiding the question. I got mad cuz I knew what he was doing so I sent him a text that I was disappointed and I was here to love him not play games. He texted back saying 'well done in making me not see u now'. I said 'good u don't deserve me' then he blows up and calls me crazy psycho bitch and to fuck off. He later texts askin who else I'm meeting instead crazy bitch. I didn't reply because time and time again I have told him there's no one else and the insults made me cry. So when he called I didn't pick up so he texted saying to not call him again and he's deleting my number. I replied with 'ok.'. I'm so hurt by this. I want him to chase me so I can have the upper hand. Not to get back with him. It's been 2 days
Most Helpful Guy
Women often don't appreciate: (i) guys move out of a relationship for different reasons... sometimes they feel stressed in it... sometimes they feel she's clingy... or they may not feel she's worth chasing (ii) the more you chase him, he'll be even less inclined to get back.
In my case, I had this super duper girlfriend, but she left me no time for myself. I felt the strain and fell ill (quite seriously), mainly because of the time being invested into the relationship. It was choosing between her and my health! I still look up to her as a good friend, but know that if I get back into the relationship, I would cause grevious hurt to myself. So I can't afford it...
Your last statement really threw me off balance: "I want him to chase me so I can have the upper hand. Not to get back with him." This sounds mean! Why use relationships to settle scores and play ego games? Just accept it for what it is...
Btw, I hate it when my partners pressurise me, and take it as a lose of freedom. (Agree that my partners would have complaints against me too...)0
Most Helpful Girl
Go with no contact for 3 weeks at least
Ignore it when he calls / texts
Avoid him as much as possible
And if u wanna have the upper hand , go out with other guys and let him sees u with male company.. but don't flirt with other men in his presence or he will be sure ur making an effort for his sake and then he has the upper hand.
Let him see you happy and never show sadness around him..
Update girl.. luck luck luck :*0