I tried breaking up with my boyfriend of almost two years, a week into college. It wasn't working, he turned into a wreck. Crying, always wanting to call me, wanting me to come home. He never wanted me to go to college in the first place. I couldn't deal with it, I was trying to focus on school. So I tried breaking up with him, to let him loose, so his whole life wouldn't be about worry about me. And he wouldn't let me! He just cried and kept blaming himself, and begged me not too! I told him i wanted to break up, and he didn't want too. I still loved him, but I could balance the two. It was a really awkward drive back, and he dropped me off at my dorm. Even when I was inside he stayed in the parking lot, still asking me to come home.
We didn't talk for a week, and I was miserable, so I started drinking, partying, didn't give a damn about school, and I slept with someone.
Still didn't talk to my ex/bf? Tell three months later, and then he asked if I cheated on him.. I don't think I did? But I feel like I did. And it haunts me. But we weren't really together? I don't know, do you guys think that's considered cheating?
- Cheating?Vote A
- Not cheating?Vote B
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People can't "not let" you break up. If you say you're breaking up, you broke up. It doesn't require his agreement. He sounds unstable and emotionally manipulative and controlling. If you want to go to college, that's your choice alone, not his, and any decent mate would encourage you to better yourself. If your relationship was worth keeping you wouldn't have broken up with him when you left, you'd have put in the effort to make it work
You may have delayed the breakup out of pity, so technically you might say you cheated, but the relationship was basically over. You shouldn't feel guilty, and you should definitely dump him decisively.1