Well I screwed up this time. My ex and I have been together for a couple years til two days ago. It was a weird situation because we were together but not really because we never became official again but we acted as such. Well he ended what we had going on... but I can't wrap my mind around it. just a few days ago he called me over to talk and said we needed to stop because he wasn't ready tht he liked me and wanted to be with me but wasmt ready that he needed to get himself together...
The next day after it was all said and dne he called me to go eat and I agreed. When I got there he acted as if nothing happened as if we were together or semi together he was grabbing my ass he was standing close to me as if to have been claiming me and kissed me on the lips before we left
I called later that day amd asked what was that about he said well like you said we should just stay the same and that he couldn't help it so we agreed to stay the same but that id give him his space often.
The next day I txts saying if he was in love with me he didn't repsond so 2 hrs later I called he didn't answer like usual another 2 hrs and I called still nothing the next day he didn't respond to my text either so I called he picked up this time I asked if he was dne he said "I guess" he said he didn't know how to respond to my text because "if you're in love with someone you're going to be there 24/7 & I already told u I didn't want that" i said so ur not in love anymre? He said "idk" I then told him how fucked up he was that in love had nothing to do with being there I then told him I was close to leaving him for good if he wanted that he said "no but I guess its best" I tld him to delete my # forget about us.
But herea where I messed up. I was sooo angry at him for changing up on me the way
That he did within just 2 days!
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You're both acting like kids, acting like your definition of love is the only one that matters, and neither one of you is paying attention to what the other person is actually saying.
"if you're in love with someone you're going to be there 24/7 & I already told u I didn't want that"
He tells you he wants periodic space and you agree to give it to him. He thinks everything is fine.
Then you text him and ask "do you love me?"
PANIC mode for him. What the fuck is this? Because in HIS mind, loving someone means being there for them 24/7, and there's NO space for the guy when he wants it. This is a complete reversal from everything he thought you had both agreed to. And he doesn't call you, to clarify. He freezes and panics.
By his definition the answer is No. But he feels like you're acting like a dick by even asking the question. Didn't you guys have an agreement? An understanding? And now you're just ignoring it with this thunderous question?
And YOU... don't get me started on the passive aggressive bullshit way you're handling this.
You both have a lot of growing up to do. And you should both stay the hell away from each other until you stop being such toxic children.0