ME: If we get married someday, and found out that I can't get pregnant, would you leave me?
HIM: I won't leave you. But having a child is very important to me. I might get a second wife. (We're both Muslims, he's allowed to have more than one wife)
ME: But what if you were the one that couldn't get me pregnant?
HIM: Then I would let you go. It's not fair for you to not be able to have your own child.
ME: Would you consider adoption?
So we were talking about random stuff, then this comes up. We're actually planning to get married next year, but because of this stupid conversation, I don't feel up to it anymore. I love him so much, but what if I really can't get pregnant? I don't think I'm strong enough to see him get married to someone else. But I would be selfish if I don't let him get married since I can't give him what he really wants. But then I would rather not get married at all! I can never see myself sharing my husband to someone else!
I feel that if he truly loves me and wants to spend the rest of our lives together, why can't we just adopt a child? I would do that for him in a heartbeat. I would never get in another relationship just for the sake of having a baby! Because I believe that it is written. God will grant it if he wills.
If I ever gonna get married, I want it to last forever. I want us to work it out together, only the two of us NO MATTER WHAT happens! But he doesn't see it the same way as I do. The POSSIBILITY that he might get married to another person hurts me. Is it worth to break up this relationship because of this? Or am I over-thinking?
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you make a promise to be with that person forever. go through good and bad times together. he has a very selfish point of view. if he would believe in marriage and the love for his wife, then he would not leave her alone in this situration but find a way.
personally, what he said, would kind of worry me. he doesn't sound like a guy that will stick with you when times get hard1