So my kids dad got married to "the love of his life" after knowing her for two months. Which is fine because im seeing someone slowly myself. However, his behavior is just odd now. he's only been married a few weeks. It seems like when im upset he is so supportive and acts like a best friend but when im happy he barely speaks to me and acts like i dont exist, even when i speak of our kids he just responds okay but if im sad or going through the motions he's like please you always have me to support you and blah blah blah... is this normal? Can i find a happy medium with him?
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Well if your doing good and are happy then in his mind the mother of his children and friend is doing good so he doesn't need to worry because he knows your safe and doing good. If your doing bad then he wants to be there for you because you need help and he is trying to be supportive as a friend and as the father of your children. Now your thing is that you want him to be more attentive to you when your doing good, but you have to keep in mind he has a life to and wants and needs beyond your and his friendship. So although you will always be friends and be there for your children together you still have your own lives and that is what he is trying to balance out. Like you said you are supportive of his life and that's a good thing that you are; that being said you may need to try doing your own thing witch you are, but maybe it's time to take things to the next level in your relationship with who you are seeing. By taking things to the next stage with your new love interest you get the relationship comfort that you want and i believe are searching for. Because from what it seems you already have a very good balance with your ex you just seem to need to take the next step with your current romance. Typically in a relationship that is when you find the comfort of another in the good and the bad, and i feel that, that specific connection is really what your missing or really in some form looking for and by taking a little bit more of an advance in your current relationship you can gain that feeling of comfort. Well i hope my words can be understood and can help you bring perspective on the issue. I wish you luck with your new relationship and in maintaining your bond and friendship with your ex.0
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