My hubby and I have been married seven years. During our marriage, we had tough times, as any does. But, we also had a good marriage. Best friends. Our friends were even envious of our relationship because we still acted like newlyweds. We were open and honest with each other other. We even had access to each others cell phones. However, about a month ago, we lost our home and had to move in with family. Not long after, we got into an argument (not a real bad one). He works out of town sometimes as a landscaper. Well, a couple of days after the argument, he had to go to work out of town. He was gone for a week, as usual. He called everyday and I figured everything would be fine. However, when he got back, he said he was leaving for good. The family was devastated, as none of us saw it coming. Another week goes by and he comes home for a family emergency with our daughter. A few days after he gets here ( he's still here by the way) he announces that he met someone (2 weeks after he left). He's going to be here for a while because of our daughter, but has decided to have a long distance relationship with the new girl. He doesn't care how much this is hurting me. He won't talk to me about it and most of the time, he's rude to me. I don't understand why he's treating me like this. He said he doesn't love me anymore. How could he just stop loving me after 2 weeks? The woman he's with is 10 years older than us, so I highly doubt its a midlife crisis (we're 38 and 37). Can you guys please help me figure this out. No smart-asses please. I want legit answers.
Why doesn't he care about how I feel?
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It's really sad to read this. Sometimes people change and you can't fathom any reason. I will say... you should become independent. If you do a job, good for you. At least, you should be able to support your daughter well. I hope that due to all these troubles, you won't lose your home or something.
Now... your husband is certainly giving in to his attraction. He can't be in love within 2 weeks. You should sit with him and talk. Prefer a calm atmosphere. Maybe everything that happened in the life of you both got to his head an he is preferring a way to escape. Maybe that woman can provide him good food, home and other luxuries. Maybe she is rich. Who knows? But if that's the case, and he is going to leave you both because of his own selfish reasons, then there is nothing much you can do. He was a fair weather husband. Ask for his reasons. If he is still rigid about his decision to leave, I would say ask for divorce and alimony for your daughter. But first, you both should try to sort things out. If he has lost all his feelings for you, there is nothing much you can do.0
I had the same problem. Look into the seven year inch. Men get tired of the routine. Tired of the marriage. When something new comes along they feel like they are unstoppable with that attention. So all of a sudden the men point out all the things wrong with u. It's very sad. And extremely hurtful. They they become so cold toward u. The tiny little fights begin to blow up. For the dumbest reasons. But think about this... u have a car. The car has problems... but has always been a good car... but a new car can bring more peace of mind... it's new... it's nice looking. Why not trade it in. That's how guys think. I'm sorry your going threw this. I'm still in my situation and it hurts.0
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