My gf of 2 years decided to break up with me originally because she lost the spark for me and didn't like me for my flaws. After that I tried really hard to change my flaws, which are not even bad flaws (overworrying, family issues, and maybe a little bit too much dependency). I made a bunch of changes in my life and my gf was happy and said that I am a perfect and wonderful guy, but a week later she started going cold on me again. I asked her what is going on and she said that I am a wonderful guy and there is nothing wrong with me and it is "her fault", and that she needs to break up to find herself and be single and free. She then said I did nothing wrong at all but she has "realizations" and that maybe we will get back together in the future but for right now she needs to be herself. I don't understand. A month before wanted to break up with me she was saying I am the best boyfriend ever and I am a genuine guy but then all of a sudden she lost interest? I then found out at her new job she was secretly seeing this new guy behind my back and after she broke up with me she went into a rebound with him. I don't understand... Did I do anything wrong? I feel like my flaws were not an issue but its that she maybe wants to test the grass on the other side and she was playing me along as a backup. I don't know. or maybe she is the type of girl who needs someone in her life for security. She also said she just needs to miss me. I have went NC with her, but I am just confused about all of this. Maybe its because we are both young and in our early twenties? I don't know
Most Helpful Girl
Maybe she just needs time to see what else is out there. You're both very young. It doesn't sound like you've done anything wrong, so don't beat yourself up over this. A lot of people have these problems when they are having serious relationships at such young ages.
If she was cheating on you then you could do much better anyways. Nobody deserves to have someone treat them in such a way. Don't be too upset about it, because she wasn't really good enough for you anyways, since she cheated!0
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Most Helpful Guy
She was honest when she said she lost her attraction for you. You had gotten needy and stopped being the guy you first were that she fell in love with. You got comfortable and turned into a love dovey guy and nothing more. A good boyfriend, but not one that gets her going sexually anymore. This other guy got her hot and bothered and she missed that because you no longer provided it. That find herself crap is her lying in order to spare your feelings. Basically she is being cruel, by acting nice about it and not helping you figure out what actually happened.
It's great that you're not contacting her.
If it were me I'd just let her go, but I take it you love this woman. So goodluck in whatever you decide to do. But no matter what happens, you need to get the old you back along with your confidence0
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