I am married at the moment but not in love... it has been a while this way for years. The only thing keeping me there is my son who is diabetic and kinda counts on my care as she dont know much about his condition, through ignorance.
Anyway, I joined a dating site more to see what was about and to get into the idea of finding someone new.
I started chatting to a local girl who spoke of all sorts of sexual stuff in a funny sort of way and what not... and then on a normal level when she saw I was not after random sex.
we chatted quite a bit.. I got to liking her and got the odd pic off her. .. clothed...
I told her I liked her but never heard anything back on that front. Her retort would be 'I am still talking to you aren't I.'
she is a bit hard to try to meet just for a chat... I think very shy... as when I did met her briefly at a local park... she was clearly shy and I gave her a small gift, which she later said she always finds hard to receive presents but thanked me for it.
she knows I am still married and eventually said... a relationship or conversation about one would not take place until I left my wife.
She said at one point was I just looking for a relationship to jump into, as in a ready made family home with another female... this is not the case! She has 4 children which is not a light undertaking for me
Anyway... on a female front... would you treat the situation the same? Is she being cautious because of a previous problem? She is not cold... she is matter of fact tho and blunt with it... can any females gather if she is likely to want something beyond... I came off the dating site as I think I have found something I want.
- she will want to try a relationship.Vote A
- it is typically a polite let down.Vote B
- no, it seems unlikely she will want to try a relationshipVote C
- you have picked a tough cookie here. but wort itVote D
- you have picked a tough cookie here. run run runVote E
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She does not want to entertain the idea of dating you or creating a life with you while you are married to your wife. In stating this, I am assuming she does not want to influence you to end your marriage by expressing her interest in you.
The fact that you are ardently considering something more with this woman, a woman whom you've known shortly, highlights your naivety and inexperience in dating and relationships, in my view.
Now, by no means am I judging you for wanting to end your marriage. I do not know your from Adam, or what you have endured in your marriage. I will, however, suggest that you respect and focus on your relationship with your wife until it comes to an end, or not. For the manner in which you treat her will have a significant impact on your son for years and years to come.0