So I've been dating this girl for just over a month. We met at a mutual friend's wedding and live 2 hours from each other. For the first 3 weeks we talked (texted) everyday all day and the conversations were great. We only get to see each other on weekends but when we do it's the entire weekend and at least at the beginning we both loved being with each other. 2 weeks ago suddenly something changed with her. Literally in a blink of an eye she became very distant in our texting conversations. She still ended up coming to visit me last weekend and things were ok, but not great. Then this past weekend I came to visit her and she was noticeably distant and it was obvious that she had something on her mind. I finally called her out and long story short she admitted to pulling back with me 2 weeks ago because she was scared she was getting attached and she wants to "just slow things down". To which I said I dont know how much slower you get since we only see each other 2 days a week!! She said over and over that I've been so great to her and I did nothing wrong and she doesn't want to hurt me. She claims her past relationship (2 years ago broke off engagement month before wedding) has been making her insecure and she said "she knows she's making the biggest mistake of her life" by letting me go. As much as I want to believe this is her being insecure it seems more like she just lost interest in me and she has been pulling back the last 2 weeks in an attempt to let me down easy? Thoughts? Also, am I an idiot for not agreeing to slow things down... I mean I do really like her but I told her I if slow is what the last 2 weeks were I can't do it.
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It's both, most likely. Things were going too fast for her, but she feels they were going too fast because she was losing interest or having second thoughts about it. You did the right thing. If you'd agreed to all of her changes or rules, she probably would've pulled back even more until it was nothing anyway. This way, she has a chance to miss you and perhaps change her mind.0