My ex and I were in a relationship for 3 years, she just got divorced the year before and she left me in January this year saying she still has feelings for her ex. She keeps meeting me on the weekends as I am her cinema friend? And I don't see it as anything more, recently she has been calling and texting whenever she is drunk and initiating conversations with me, yet when we meet up she says that she wants me to move on. She's 30 and my 28th bday is soon, I have asked her to spend the day with me on my bday as just friends but I am still in love with her. I'm very sure she knows that. I just don't know what to do anymore?
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When she is inebriated, since she has a somewhat close relationship with you, you are the first and perhaps the only person she reaches out to. Why is this? I assume she finds the regular interactions with you welcomed and enjoyable, which is a break from the normal stress she endures.
Thus, she naturally reaches out to you when she drinks and reflects on her situation, to feel better. Interacting with you influences her to feel better. So, why the nickname calling? She calls you by the nickname she chose for you to make you feel better about conversing with her. It's familiar to her, thus she repeats it.
Then, once she is sober, it's a different story. Gone are the nickname calling. Gone are the mixed signals.1
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