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you sure are right! she made a mistake and is angry with you, really... i think she has borderline as well if you ask me. keep an eye on her mate, she sounds crazy, keep a healthy distance!4
you sure are right! she made a mistake and is angry with you, really... i think she has borderline as well if you ask me. keep an eye on her mate, she sounds crazy, keep a healthy distance!
It's scary how stupid the both of you are. It's so obvious you didn't give a fuck about her, she should have realized that, but instead she slapped you and you got your man card revoked. She was also called a slut by the guy she liked and arrested on grounds of assault. I really hope you don't go around bragging about this, because some dude may just kick your ass for her. Meh, life.
Ok. First of all, a slut is a person who goes around FUCKING a lot of people, not kissing one guy at one party. At least she was honest about it and told you right away and asked for your forgiveness. Your pride was hurt and you overreacted by calling her a slut over one fucking kiss. And, slapping you was wrong of her, because if you would've called me a slut over that minor shit, I would've broke your fucking jaw. What a little bitch you are.
Arrested over a slap? Are you some sort of man-baby? I didn't even know slapping somebody was illegal. I guess it is technically physical assault but it's such a minor thing. How immature of you, you just wanted to get revenge because she hurt your little ego. Fucking hell man. Get a grip.
I wanna say yes, you were. She was in the wrong. Yes she was upset, but that's no reason to put your hands on somebody. She caused the whole situation and she'll think twice next time.
It's a better route than say, hitting her back.
I agreed that u broke off with her sinxe she's at fault. I dont understand why these days girls like to hit guys even when they r not being assaulted. It is her fault. But do you need to call. police for that? Kinda of over react
This chick is crazy. She cheated on you then has the nerve to attack u and be upset cause u dumped her for it. Wtf? She is in the wrong. Then she puts her hands on you wow sounds like she needs a little jail time to cool her off and teach her a lesson cuz she sounds crazy
you're an asshole. bets are deep. and sometimes it can mean your life if something was seriously bet on. You should be grown enough to handle your business without the law. now you've possibly ruined her career because that goes on her record. what the actual fuck is your problem
Honestly I don't think so. You can't be a baby every time something like this happens. Your gonna get slapped more than once just like a guy is gonna slap a girls Ass more than once and they never press charges. You really over reacted and I'd look at you different in school and not like you. And the break up was over reaction too. It was a bet she didn't do it for her benefit.
Yep. Wish more people would do that. If you wanna slap someone around as an adult, you get to go to adult time out. Welcome to life.
I think it's fair. Though I do not agree with you calling her a slut, I also do not agree her laying a hand on you. Verbal abuse is bad, but physical abuse is what you can get arrested for. I think it was a smart move on your behalf because too many females go running around thinking it's ok to hit men. It isn't. Just like if the genders were reversed, you were the one who cheated, and you hit her, I would have the same opinion as well.
But she was the one who laid a hand on you, I have seen abusive relationships, and people need to learn that it isn't tolerated, man or female. But again, I do not think it was right to call her a slut even if she did cheat. I know it's hard, but don't stoop to a cheater's level.
I won't say you were wrong for having her arrested because of the assault. but you were wrong to call her a slut and dump her like that after she told you with honesty what she did. she could lie to you. the honesty itself is most valuable above anything in a relationship, and those kind of mistakes can take place for anybody. plus what gave you the right to call her a slut? if she's not even been or being with another man except you.
you are immature, and should not seek a relationship with a girl.
Noop... in fact how you are acting isn't very nice or fair at all... it sounds like your hurt her very much... did you ever think that maybe when she kissed that guy that it didn't actually mean anything at all?, it was a bet... get over it... but it doesn't mean she remotely fancied the guy so you blew it dude... yet you had to go all out jealous over what happened and take it this far as to get her arested and to try and ruin her life? for what? 1 little kiss? if you did this to her and don't even care you hurt her then you clearly never cared for her whatsoever... if you did you wouldn't of done that to her.. i think you should go to the police station and explain yourself.
If you don't care then why ask? Especially if you're just gonna argue?
No you shouldn't have called her a slut. She shouldn't have slapped you.
Okay lets putbit this way if you were to go yell at her and slap her she would of done the same shit dude like nah thats fucken domestic violence i think
You did right. She messes with another guy and still has the audacity to get mad at you (who did nothing) and slap you. That's not okay.
You were right. She didn't need to put her hands on you when she was being the slut
What she did was wrong, but you really overreacted.
First of all, she shouldn't have made that bet. Betting to kiss another guy while having a boyfriend is no-go. Her telling you the truth about it was mature of her, and the right thing to do. You breaking up with her about it doesn't seem wrong to me either; she never should have kissed another guy, let alone solely for losing a bet.
Calling her a slut, I can imagine these words being thrown around at such a time and believe that a sincere apology wouldn't be out of place in case you decided to move forward with her.
Her still being upset about it does seem to show that she does care for you and does feel very bad about it. The fact that she cried about it when telling you suggests that as well.
Her slapping you wasn't right of her, but with all pent up emotions and stress I can see that happen as well. We are only human. I don't agree with pressing charges though, you don't want to put a girl in jail over something like that. Especially when it was mostly because she cared for you and was frustrated you dumped her after she told you the truth. I agree with your parents, you were her ex-boyfriend and it -was- in your main interest to take care for her. Even if she now no longer is, you should still be a gentleman about it. I don't believe this is something that goes away easily, she might have trouble with her record in the future. Relationships or breakups can turn messy, but unless she slapped your eye out I would suggest to try and work things out between the people involved without notifying the authorities.
Really dude, you are an ass. first it was only a kiss and from a bet to it isn't like she like she went to bed with him, so you deserved to be slapped. second did you really have to call the cops, that's kind of a bitch move man.
I reckon you wee wrong, in more ways than one.
She lost a bet, and didn't back out of it. So what? It may have been a foolish bet to make, but she didn't fulfill her end of the deal because looked forward to it or enjoyed it.
There's a word for people who call the cops, when they can sort things out themselves. Around here they call them a "dog". I'd probably whack you too, just for doing that.
Yas u were right about it. What kinda gurl would do such thingwith another guy when she know she's alrdy in aother man's possession. Silly gurls like dat dont deserve sumone is loyal, luvin' and caring person. U were right to dump her azz tbh but i know how u feel when u reported her. I know the feeling x)
You were right and you were wrong on separate issues.
First off, where you were wrong. When she mentioned kissing the other guy, you severely overreacted and acted like a complete fucking asshole. Own the fact that you acted like a complete fucking asshole and grow up--she did NOT deserve to be treated that way. And given your age difference, you should be completely understanding that she's at a very immature age (and frankly, so are you) and that she is going to make mistakes--a simple "do not ever do that again if you want to be with me" would have more than sufficed for a girl of her age. She came to you crying because she realized her mistake and was being honest and trying to make things right--she should have been commended and embraced by you. You'd be amazed at what developing a sense of forgiveness can do for your life, and I highly recommend you start developing it, for you own good.
Where you were right was to get the police involved when she hit you and yelled at you. Domestic abuse is never acceptable, period, from men or women. She completely crossed the line there. If you intend to follow through with the charges, that's your right--despite how poorly you treated her.
Now if I were in your situation (and this isn't judgement, as I said, you are well within your rights to press charges), I would have the charges dropped. Not because she's a girl (that doesn't matter in domestic abuse), but for this reason only: to learn to develop that sense of forgiveness. You both acted extremely immaturely (her more than you--you aren't the one in jail right now), but what will benefit your life more--sticking it to a young, immature girl "just to show women they can't just do whatever they want," or developing your compassion and capacity for forgiveness? You're within your rights either way. But give it some thought.
Don't you think you're being a little harsh? I do. You were being pretty harsh for dumping her in the first place. Then you were being harsh and vengeful for having her arrested. You want to potentially ruin her for the rest of her life because of somethings so trivial? That will be on her record FOREVER and can do serious harm. There are jobs she will never be able to get because of that. I understand why you don't like what she did, but come on!
You asked if you were wrong. Hell yea you were wrong. Even if you drop the charges it will still be on her record. Good thing you dumped her though, she probably deserves better than you. You sound like a total judgmental control freak.
What OP is feeling is what I like to call the "blame period", the period when you start to question your actions and as yourself whether you were right or not - even if you clearly were. OP is just looking for validation.
OP, I speak directly to you now, what you did was fair, you were (viciously) assaulted by your ex and you reported her - so what?
I don't see why some people are making such a deal of it just because he's a man? If OP had slapped his GF back I bet a lot of you would have turned against him - same if he had slapped her first! You'd be calling for him to getting prosecuted!
While I wouldn't have done the same thing. You were well within your rights to do that. So yes, you were right. She has no right to put her hands on you. Especially after everything that happened. She obviously has trouble controlling herself.
Her parents will side with her no matter what, so what they think really doesn't matter. Flip the roles around, you would be in jail and your parents mad at her for "instigating". Sucks that all this happened, but I hope that you'll be able to move on from all of it without too much trouble
If this was done out of spite and anger it was wrong. If it was done because she seriously hurt you and made you feel threatened it was right.
Was it an over reaction on your part both to her kissing him and having her arrested? For the first, I think so, and for the second possibly. Was it ok for her to hit you? Not at all. Is jail time an acceptable punishment for something of this magnitude? Personally, I think not. Does she deserve to get off scotch free? I think not. If there was a lesser punishment, such as having her arrested for assault but do what you can to keep her out of jail and able to keep living a regular life albeit with a mark on her record, I would have advised you to go with that option. Assault is assault regardless of gender and it's never ok. But the repercussions of her being in jail will last far longer than any injury she could have ever given to you. Keep that in mind if there's a next time.
Nope, you were wrong to get her arrested over a slap.
Nah, if she attacked you then she deserved to get arrested.
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