I came out of a really bad relationship
after six years he says I never wanted to marry you and never will..
he said he's havin a girl and he enjoys the sex and couple of bad things about me,, he always denied me and treated me like shit,,,
but he was my first love and when we first met he cried saying promise me that you won't love nobody after me, i did
I kept it for so long even when he started new relationships
during me, after me and so on,
now there is this guy who i like so much and i've knowing for long enough to trust,
I always ditched this guy for my ex because I know deep inside my ex will always be in my heart no matter how bad he changed...
yesterday this new guy and me were talking
and i never really felt this way
of smiling just because he's talking to me
but i keep on remembering my promises to my ex
and it's getting hard for me to open up and love again
why am i feeling this way?
over a guy who got someone already and who always cheats on me and lies to my face when he knows that i know everything
it's a bit confusing :(
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I imagine it's because you held so fast to your convictions, instead of to the guy himself. It's like going to a different culture and being expected to act differently, despite the fact you've acted in a certain way for so, so many years.
I know it's difficult, but the guy you left sounds like a scumbag and you need to let him go. I don't care what he did or said in the past -- he's no good for you now. Your life is far, FAR better off without him and the less exposure you have with him, the better. Preferably no exposure at all (cut him OUT of your life).
Don't be afraid to give other guys chances, but remember to take things slow and get to know the guy well. Us guys CAN be utter scumbags and can be pervertedly minded and deceitful (look at the last guy), but we can also be fantastic and dedicated too. Just make sure you take things slow so you can assess this guy properly.
I wish you well wherever your life goes :)0