he hurt me like no one ever did im over him but i can't fully move on at all (counseling/therapy is not an option)
someone said in order for me to move on i have to 1) get over him (which i have)
and 2)... i have to.. forgive him, for myself.. (which seems almost impossible)
how am i supposed to that? :( he hurt me sooo badly and because of him i know have horrible trust issues and i get super defensive around men specially when they hint they like me or something.
i have to work out this resentment towards him and move on... how?
i cut off contact with him years ago and i just can't forgive him for what he put me through
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It may sound stupid, but you should see some other people. When you think about loving someone, you think of him and that's where the trust issues come from. Do you have any guy friends? That could be the first step to create some trust in the male community. Try to get a guy friend and maybe you can get a boyfriend later. You don't have to forgive him. Your biggest problem is not him, but the trust issues he gave you. Good luck0