I just started to have feelings for this guy when he broke up with me .. we both had a crush on each other... i was enjoying playing hard to get and he was chasing me non stop but after a while he became colder so i acted needy for one day.. the next day we argued and broke up.. we never reached the love point but he likes me a lot and i still carry feelings for him.
So , i really want him back. And i have been reading a lot about how to make an ex come back.
after a no contact for 3 weeks i couldn't take it.. so i broke the contact but smartly as i asked him for information about Spain since he had been there last month.. ofc i wasn't intending to go but i made it up so i can show him i will have fun and i told him that we are a group of guys & girls so that i can make him a little jealous.
And in between asking for info.. i faked a mistake of sending him a guy photo to even make him more jealous..
I waited for 2 days with again no contact then i read something about accepting the break up and that an ex wouldn't miss you unless he believes he lost you..
So that's when i contacted him for the last time telling him that i accept the break up and that i will block him.. i wanted to drag a reaction out of him.. but he only responded with " ok.. hope the best for you "
Now its been a week.. and waiting for him to miss and want me back
Did i make the right moves?
Is there anything i should have done but didn't?
Any expectations of how it would go from here?
I need every possible advice i really miss and want this guy ..
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The no contact for a while was a good idea. It would have got him thinking..
When you spoke to him after the 3 weeks, the trying to make him jealous was not the best thing to do..
It would have annoyed and pissed him off yet been seen as an immature act.
Telling him you are going to block him to provoke a reaction.. It sounded like you are saying out of spite
- "fuck you, i still like you but it seems you have put no effort into trying to get me back I'm going to move on by being angry with you instead of upset.
By him saying : " ok.. hope the best for you "
1) adding "hope the best for you" on the end, he is just being genuine and trying to let you down easier..
2) He still likes you and misses you but does not have the balls to truly tell you how he feels as he felt with what you have said that its over for good.. (making him think its not worth it saying how he feels)
If he felt as if he made a mistake he probably would have responded to you first within those 3 weeks...
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO.. (SINCE HE WOULD PROBABLY NOT BOTHER TRYING TO CONTACT YOU SINCE YOU BLOCKED HIM..)
JUST TELL HIM STRAIGHT UP.. NO LONG HEART FELT MESSAGE. JUST STRAIGHT TO THE POINT.
SOMETHING ALONG THE LINES OF:
- I miss you and want to try work things out between us
Dont say you still really like him as he would obviously know, he will appreciate hearing it directly.. To men, sometimes saying less means more.
ITS UP TO YOU TO TRY AND FIX IT.. remember it does not matter what other people think about what you do or who you are only week minded people hold back from what they want in life. You would rather risk and see if it can work out then regret and do nothing about it..
No it does not seem desperate or needy to say something like this..
He will have more respect towards you to be so upfront about it and at least you can get the exact answer you wanted..1
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