Is there ever a moment of brief sadness or even butterflies if you run into them years or months later?
If you TRULY loved or liked someone do you ever forget them even if you eventually move on? Does your mind wander to them at all?
What Guys Said 3
I wouldn't say that there's moment of sadness but more of a nostalgic feeling, thoughts of the things we went through, the sex, and the tender moments that I usually cherish the most. I'd never go back to those exgfs, becuase even with all the good times, there's a reason why they became my exes. Every now and then there will be small reminders that make me think of them but nothing to get my self lost in thoughts over. I usually write them out in poems and that usually helps me get the pondering thoughts out and then after that I never look back it's always forward I am moving.1
Heck no. Not me. There's a girl I haven't seen in twelve and a half years I've never forgotten that will always be important to me. And another gal not quite three months ago that will be as well. I don't forget people I love or care about. These are two such people. That's just me.1
What Girls Said 7
well I'm a little confused by myself in this department.
get this. iv had 2 bfs. i won't forget them, yet if i run into them, i dont feel those butterflies or the love i used to feel, because i have moved on.
but... i have 2 guy best friends [whom i have no deep feelings for] and our friendship has been dwindling. when i run into either of them, this wave of nostalgia just washes over me and i can never forget what we used to have.
so yeah idk, with regards to my relationships, i think my mind wanders to my joy, but then that's just put to a stop when i remember why exactly it no longer exists.1
No, you never forget. I particularly don't get butterflies as I have moved on, but when a certain person crosses my mind it's just that, a passing reminiscing moment, nothing more. I don't feel any sadness or anything of that sort.. cause it's been too long.. I think it depends on how long its been and if you have managed to move on or not, to determine the type of feeling that would evoke in you. For example, first few weeks/months/ even years, could be a sense of loss and sadness, melancholic feeling? and as time passes those feelings fade, yet you still remember them from time to time.. and when you finally move on, you feel absolutely nothing, just the memory stays of course.. unless you don't manage to move on, then maybe some feelings might linger, but that didn't happen to me at all.1
I don't forget about the people I've been involved with just like I don't forget old friends, previous bosses, former colleages, BUT I don't feel anything about them after our time is well over.
It's like.. "oh.. right, John... yeah I dated him for a year or so... I don't know where's he's right now. Hope all is well, but I really don't care about that dude".1
I'll always have feelings above normal acquaintance because I've been intimate with them and shared some of my life, however, I don't still love them. They've helped make me who I am today and I accept that they are part of my life, but I don't have any romantic feelings toward most of them... just the one, but we went through something quite dramatic and personal and we never broke up properly it just had to end, so that's a slightly different story as I still have a great feeling of affection for him.1
You don't forget people you love, or loved, past tense. I mean, most people will remember their 4th grade teacher, so of course you'l remember someone you had feelings for.
Personally I have gotten over someone for the most part, but if someone says his name it's like an alarm goes off inside my head and I get butterflies, or if I think I have seen him (and it turns out to be someone else.)
Haven't talked to him in several months and I know that if I happened to see him my heart would spazz out but I don't want to be with him anymore.1
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