i have learned over the years of being with my boyfriend that maybe its time for me to let it go. We always bump heads and he seem like he's never happy when he's around me. I always try to make him happy and keep the relationship spontaneous but he seems like he's not interested in trying to make things better in our relationship. he always has something negative to say and we can never be on the same page. I have never cheated on him or gave him a reason to question my loyalty the way he's done me. we have a 2 year old daughter and he is the only man I've ever loved as much as i love him but he keeps hurting me by the negativity and bashful words. one minute he likes me the next minute he wants nothing to do with me. I am extremely emotional and it has gotten worse over the years because of how the relationship is going. he is the love of my life but im starting to believe that he looks at me as a mistake. i've been trying to find ways to cope with the idea of me and him not being together anymore but its so hard i just can't seem to fully walk away and give up on something that isn't healthy for me.
How can I break from being in love with someone I've been with for 7 years that doesn't love me the same way?
What Guys Said 1
Sorry to hear your situation.
Have you tried to determine what the root cause may be? His unhappiness may hide some underlying problem. Common problems are: financial issues, he doesn't want to be a father, unsatisfied with his job. These can manifest in general unhappiness and irritability, which is ultimately directed at you in the home.
If breaking up is on your mind, I would place your child's welfare as top priority above your own.
For example, if you break up, who holds custody of the child, or would it be joint custody? How will you support yourself and your family. Are you expecting child-care from him? What do you do if he doesn't pay. What do you do if he wants nothing to do with the child and provides no help raising your child?
Also, if you stay, a child growing up in a negative household isn't good either. If I were you, I would list out my priorities in descending order, and make a decision based on how many of those priorities you can satisfy with your final decision.0
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