Me and my boyfriend have been together for around a month, we have a good relationship. Well we did.
I found out last night that he has loads of girls numbers on his phone, I wasn't looking - he mentioned it to me. I tried to ask why he has them if he doesn't talk to them, and he just looked shifty. So I asked would he delete them? He said he wants tokeep a couple of girls numbers, so I said, why if you don't speak to them?
At this point I was very confused. Until he finally confessed. That him and his friend at work have a bet where they chat up as many girls as possible and exchange numbers to try and beat eachother, so far he is winning apparently. So I said what happens if your friend gets more? Then he was like I will chat up more girls to get their number.
I was literally stunned
I just think its wrong to play this sort of thing while he is with me.. I don't know. I know its not cheating but to me its disrespectful. He didn't even tell them about me, apparently he just ignores them.. but it just gets me how he goes to work and says how much he misses me and stuff but he's chatting up other girs? I don't know.
I don't know what to do..
I feel very confused
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I'll wager this 'bet' he has going with his work friend is a lie. It's what he said at the time to keep the numbers. I dont get why he even mentioned it in the first place - unless he is looking to drive a wedge between you as a way out of this relationship (?).
Depending on opinion - I personally dont think there is anything wrong with 'simple harmless flirting' as long as that is all it is. How well this is received depends on the outlook of the partner and how stable the relationship is. It *can* be fun and harmless. In your case, if you feel this is unacceptable, then he should stop.
Did you ask him.. "Is it OK if I flirt with guys at work?"
If not, maybe you should. It might give him an idea of what you are feeling.1
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