Been broken up with my off again on again of 6 years a few months ago. Our last conversation went horribly and I didn't expect to hear from her again. I rejoined social networking a few weeks ago, and before I blocked her, she was ranting off about dating and meeting men, which is fine. I'm not her man anymore so I'm not concerned about that.
So last night, I got an email from her that said "I miss you." Naturally I was honest and told her that I missed her too (more from a friend standpoint than anything else to be honest. We were close.) I get a second one that says "Can we be friends?" And this was my response- " yes we can, but we'd have to talk about it. If you're not ready for that I'll understand."
That was last night, and I haven't heard anything back.
What's the deal? Maybe she was being honest, maybe scared, maybe drunk? Hell if I know. What do you think?
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Hmmm... It's difficult to say, however I'm sure she does still have feelings for you and that she does miss you. That part I believe to be honest. What does your gut say? Is she the type to get drunk and be brave or lacks a filter or is more truthful when she does? If so, she probably was drunk. Whether she was drunk or not, I still think she was being honest with you. The question is, even if it is the truth, would she tell you in the first place? Is she normally open and honest with you? You know her behavior better than any of us... even if you don't know the exact scenario or context, I'm going to keep saying it, but she's being honest with you.
It wouldn't surprise me if she did get scared by your response. She may want you back but isn't saying so right now.
My advice: you can either let your curiosity get the best of you and follow-up with another question (like: did my response bother you?), OR you can just wait it out and let her respond. My honest advice is to wait on her and seriously ask yourself if you really do want to be friends with her. I know that may sound harsh, but if you have been in the on/off boat for 6 years, chances are you will end-up back in that boat again! Do you want that? I understand missing her and what not, but if you want a future with someone, and you know it's not her, protect yourself from further confusion, complication, and frustration!! I'm a true believer that it is very difficult to be friends with someone after a break-up, especially if many years have been invested.
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