So in general I'm pretty frustrated I guess. At first he was sure about wanting friendship. Then he told me he hasn't decided yet and it just going with the flow, but added that he feels like it's weird being friends and wouldn't want to cause problems. He said "sure" about talking once in a while, but told me he doesn't want to do it all the time.
The thing is, we do see each other very often and share many common interests, so it's really not that difficult to talk about casual things and be friendly with one another. In the past, we have had really normal and casual convos about things we have in common. It didn't feel weird and he certainly did not act weird about it. I don't stalk him or overburden him at school or anything like that... i honestly just let him be, and give him his space. I never initiate conversation. So I really don't feel the issue lies within me being "overly attached."
He's a little all over the place, at least from how I see it. Can anybody help me sort out his behavior? Should I take this personally?
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Most guys do not take rejection well and find it even harder to maintain a friendship with the person who rejected them as a boyfriend. It is just easier to avoid that person in order not to reopen the wounds they have not dealt with yet. Breaking up with a guy can be a real ego buster and reduces the confidence level. It is more so if they are more sensitive to such matters. Should you take this personally? Not so much except for having pity on him until he sorts it out. Some guys never do deal with the issue and most do however. Time usually dulls the pain and suffering so that he is somewhat normal again. First relationships can be a bear, as they usually do not last very long. Girls tend to get very upset, cry, scream and rant until they get over it. Guys tend to internalize it, which is a bad thing to do. It is the way we are wired.