Me and my gf of a year and a half have been on a break for 3 months now, we recently went on holiday together and things were better we got on like an house on fire and things were great.
Since coming back I've missed her so much and finding it hard to be without her. she said she still loves me and its only the distance that is the only major issue now.
I said i would move up there and start a new life with her there, just seems like she is dragging her feet a lot as she says thats its a big step for both of us and we need to make sure we are ready for it 100% I've asked her about it a couple of times now and she just said that we were getting on great on holiday, now were back im pushing all this on her, just give it time she said.
conversation has dried up again a bit and were not txting as much, and she has told me that she's not telling me not to text her just dont mention that in every message.
I love her more than anything and want to make this work but i can't keep hurting like this over analyzing all the little details.
just want to talk it over with her and if she wants me to move on then i gotta suck up and do it, but all this limbo is making me worse.
Before we went on holiday i pretty much told her i was over it and she said she got upset by that, i was just talking shit really im not at all.
just dont know what to do at all, i want her but dont want this shit feeling and if i try talking to her about things im just coming across as pushy/needy.
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With being on a "Break" and Going on this Spectacular with Practically no strings attached, just mainly being hooked at the hip as far as sleeping arrangements went, she got real comfy and cozy with the love potion And the Notion And Now------Just seems like she is dragging her feet a lot.
Yes, she is. I see a Raised Red flag sign that she likes the way things are, doesn't really want to change Anything Back to the Way we were and being this "distance" is really now the dealbreaker, with her giving you her own hymns and haws on the subject matter, she doesn't want you over there at this given moment.
She would feel she has no space, no privacy, be tied down like a horse who can't get to water scenario. And with all of this, it should be quite clear, dear, that this Break you both have been on for the last few months, has done her own heart some good and she wants to Stay on it.
All you can really do is be patient, understanding and text her as if nothing is wrong. Give her time to maybe feel as strong you do about Missing the Kissing. And if she felt like rockets were going off on this trip you were on, perhaps another in another time Might make her change her mind and she Won't "Mind"-------Move up there and make a new life with her.
However, no guarantees, so you need to do your own soul searching so you don't continue down a beaten path of having this "sh*t feeling."And yes, being in 'Limb' just makes you feel jumpy, helpless but what you need to do is start Jumping to some conclusions and begin your own beguine of "Analyzing More of the little details" with her and Any future you might or might not have with someone you Know in your own heart and mind you love.
Don't push her, don't make her feel you are Pushing her in any way. You will only "Push" her further away and maybe into the arms of another or just in Harm's way with wanting more than she does right now.
Good luck. xxx1
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