Why am I Hung up help its screwing up my potential relationships?
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Yes normal! Good thing is that you recognise and have thought about where things didn't go quite right. Also understanding it is having an effect on new potential relationships is a good thing.
I think you need to give yourself more time to heal. Forgive yourself of the things you look back on and regret. Forgive him (in your head) of anything he did to upset you. Try not to think about the 'what if' or 'if only' thoughts.
You sound like you are ready to move on so try and think about what happened less. It is all done now, the events can't be changed, although when you do think about it. Think how you would do something differently, think of what you have learnt.
It sounds as though you are accepting that this relationship wasn't and isn't going to work and that is great.
Sometimes deep down you know it's not right b know that it hurts. It feels like it takes to long to feel easier. You can't stop going over things in your head.
Keep busy, see your friends, live your dreams and go out doing your favourite things. Allow yourslef to think about this sometimes, but don't let it rule your thoughts.
Don't pressure yourself to feel better and jump for someone new. Take things day by day. And if you meet someone, take it slow if you like, no harm in taking things slow if thats what you want.
It took me over a year and a half to get over my ex. I was single for 2 years then met someone and was terrified. had never taken me that long to get over someone and I was affraid of the hurt again. So I took things really slowly. He stuck around even though I was reluctant and wouldn't get physical, but that showed he liked me. There have been ups and downs but we are nearly 2 years in, and i'm so glad I took the chance even though I was scared,
Sometimes you have to risk hurt for the right people, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.
But you must allow your self time if you need it. What your experiencing is totally normal xx0
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