So my ex broke NC, she followed it up quickly trying to inquire about how I was, wanting to make plans (which now she is backing out of lol). But the weird thing is she's being hostile when I'm not even initiating contact.
As an example:
Last night calls me out of the blue
Her: Did my family member call you?
Me: No why?
Her: they need something if you help them at all I'll never speak to you again, they are causing problems in our family and I know you like to help people.
Me: Well the never talked to me, but I promise I won't
Basically hostile if I even ask how their day was [I'm annoying] even though i'm not initiating contact at all, simply responding when asked, called, etc.
Also lots of one word answers "ok, good, yup"
I guess I just don't understand how right after NC it seemed like there was effort being made to now this.
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I'm going through almost the exact thing you're going through right now. I don't know what your back story is, but it seems like she's wanting to talk to you. I read that there's really no borders between love and hate, and typically it's easier to hate someone than to express how much you care about them. She may be hostile. She may say some nasty shit, but remember that she's saying it, she's contacting you, which means she's THINKING of you. Nomatter what, DO NOT under any circumstances allow any negative thing she says to bother you, and don't respond emotionally. Just keep calm and don't let it bother you. There's more behind what she's doing, and only time will tell when she's ready to speak her mind truthfully. Ride it out, and live your life in the meantime.0
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