My gf and I had been dating almost 6 years, we met late in high school and are both each others first love. Everything had been amazing, she was my dream girl, we rarely ever fought, but if we did we came out stronger in the end, and it was usually silly stuff anyway.
Last week she left me. Told me that what we had was amazing, and that she still loves me and wants to be in our lives, but that she had been thinking too hard and decided that she doesn't know if what we had was real love, or if she just felt this way because I'm all she's ever known.
This crushed me, and I didn't know what to do. I'm so scared, I didn't beg for her or anything not to go, but I am so afraid to lose her. She was everything to me and made me feel the best I ever have. We joked about getting married/having kids and all sorts of things. Talked about how something like this would never happen... and then just poof. She can't love me anymore.
She is recently out of college and under lots of stress/pressure from parents and needing to find a job, etc. Maybe she is just transitioning into an adult and doesn't want to be responsible, idk.
But it sucks, I'm so confused, and have gone on no contact as of 4 days ago, because I know we both need time and space and because I want to focus on me. I know I shouldn't hold onto a sliver of hope, but I can't help it. I love her so much, and I don't want her to go, and I just cannot understand why this happened. And no, I'm not searching for a reason why it happened, because I know it has nothing to do with me, its all on her. It just sucks. ;_; In the end I know I just want us both to be happy, but dammit. I was so in love with her. Who knows... maybe she will return to me when she's ready. I shouldn't dwell on the negative. It's so hard... I miss her. What am I doing...
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I could understand the stress from parents, growing up and trying to find work but I thought at least she could have told you about this before the break-up. It sounds like she feels so overwhelmed with life that she didn't want to drag you down or is afraid of hurting you if what she felt wasn't true love. Try giving her some space then contact her to see why this break-up happened. I'm sure she still loves you and could use some support :30
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