How do you forget somebody who gave you so much to remember? What I'm really trying to ask is how to get over a guy you honestly loved?

All i can think about is the way his lips felt on mine and the beautiful colors of his eyes and the way he use to hold me. I tell everybody im over him, but i miss him so much and dont think ill ever get over him.


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  • Time and new experiences.

    To be honest, you will never fully forget them. There will always be a little spark there if you feel that way. But its intensity will fade, and new experiences can help put it in perspective.

    The biggest problem is that a lot of people actively hold on to these feelings, hoping that 'one day' they will get the person back. That is basically just picking at a scab over and over. It never lets it heal. It never lets it fade. It keeps the person in the front of their mind, and keeps the memories fresh. It makes it impossible to move on. And it then gets worse over time, because you tend to start forgetting about the negatives, about the fights, about the incompatibility issues, and just focus on the positives, on the things you miss. This puts the memory on a pedestal and starts interfering with the ability to make deep connections with new partners. They are being compared to an impossible ideal, their 'behind the scenes footage' is being compared to someone's 'highlight reel'. And they can't live up to that. So the relationship falters and just seems to add more fuel to the 'oh, it would never have failed if they were like Past Lover!'

    You have to be willing to let it go. You have to be willing to move forward. You have to understand that the only person responsible for your happiness is you. They didn't do anything magical, it was simply that they brought out a part of you that you didn't expect, and don't know how to 'conjure up' on demand. The more you understand that you control your own happiness, and only you, the better you are able to keep a proper perspective about things, and the less stressful it is to let yourself move forward.

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  • My ex was my first love and we met in middle school 6th grade, and we just got together and didn't know anything about each other. We dated for about 5 years and then suddenly he broke up with me out of the blue. He started drinking last summer in 2013 and since then is still on it. I don't want someone that would chose drugs over me. If they want to drink that's on them but I'm not going to come second in his life. I had to wake up seeing my ex everyday when he broke up with me it was like having a broken leg or shot in the heart. I healed though with time it took me about 5-7 months it wasn't easy but it was worth it. I understand you miss but time changes everyone. My ex turned into a jerk and even though he and I go to the same school together we don't' say anything to each other. You will miss him for some time, but with time you will forget him. It could take weeks, days, or even months, or up to a year. Only time can tell you that. He's your ex for a reason whatever way he treated you or whatever it was that ended you guys relationship then he obviously isn't the one for you. My ex is a player he's good at drilling girls in into thinking he likes them. He's good at like bribing girls with sweet names and stuff like that but he's afraid to commitment. I moved on from my ex and so can you, with time. I act like mine doesn't exist and works like a charm, I know it sounds sad and but that's how break ups go. My ex and I never started off as friends so it would be kind of weird for us to be friends. You have learn how to move on, I understand you miss him but you have to move on from him, don't stay stuck in a place where you don't belong your struggling to get out. You'll meet other guys in the future he isn't the only fish in the sea.

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What Guys Said 7

  • sometimes you don't forget people like that , I know there's girls like that I knew years ago that I still haven't forgot about. some people have more of an impact in our lives and we don't forget about them. but we do move on and meet other people we find interesting and want to date next

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  • It the love of your life
    Gradually it will be coped with.
    You will not forget
    The wond will heal but the eschar will remain for ever
    The only way you will forget him totally is when you get kid
    Cause live for kids is far mire than lover
    Kids will change your life and erase all sorrow from past

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  • Truthfully speaking if you loved someone so much you'll never forget them.
    If you didn't love them that much then they are forgotten.
    Stay strong. It's difficult. It's very hard as you miss him. Just be happy for him.
    Look after yourself. Very brave of you sharing your deep innermost feelings.

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  • One thing about relationships I never understood is how 2 people can be best friends for years and then forget eachother after a break up. I have guy friends and couldn't imagine just not talking to. them. starting now

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  • he wouldn't be the last

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  • first step sleep with me second step sleep with me again 3rd step make him the enemy by bringing all the negative things about him out and 4th step relize there are better guys only time can heal this 5th step sleep with me once more

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  • I'm in a similar situation except I ended it and regretted immediately

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What Girls Said 3

  • You move on if the man doesn't feel the same way anymore. Is he really worth it let's be honest there are plenty of men out there, he couldn't of been that great if he left you sorry to sound mean, but If a man does that why spend all you time and emotions on him.

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  • I've been wondering the same thing. I can't get over my ex who I dated for 2 years, everyday I see him I feel like my heart is breaking over and over again. I tell everyone I'm over him, but I know I will never be over him. I don't know what it will take for me to get over him, but everyday I just go on with life as it is. I feel if you're meant to be, someway you'll find your way back to each other. So I guess you just wait or move on, or you try to get him back.

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  • time heals every wound...

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