My gf and I were together for 6 years, met her at the end of high school, and we were both each others first loves. Everything was great, no issues we couldn't fix (tho we rarely ever had anything, and they were usually small silly things), and we always wanted to be w/ each other. Talked about our future, getting married, having kids, etc.
She left me a few weeks ago, because she had too much free time to think, since she has been out of college (graduated earlier this year) and told me, basically: "What is love? How do we know we love each other if we have only been with each other?" And saying she doesn't feel the same about me anymore, completely out of the blue.
This destroyed me and my dreams, completely blindsighted. I didn't beg or anything, we cried it out and everything, tried to see if it could be fixed, but she said there is nothing to fix and it's just something she has to do to move on. So a while after it happened, of my own will had gone No Contact to her. I wanted to do this for myself to try and focus on me, and see how I actually truly felt about her.
It's been a little over a month now, and I have learned a lot about how I feel and things that I was lacking before, and are good for me. (Things like: I was constantly focused on my gf before, and now realize not to do that, and that hanging out w/ other friends is important to myself, etc.)
The main thing is I'm NOT over her! And I don't think I want to be, I went days w/o even thinking of her and everything. But it seems, I still truly love her so much :/ I love her family, I love everything about her, I just can't help it. So, we are meeting up in a few days, and my question is this:
How do I act? Some people told me to act like I'm fine and have moved on. But I don't think that's right, should I express my feelings about how I really feel instead? I know I can't force her to love me, but I just don't know what to do anymore, I still love her so much, she's a piece of me.
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My advice to you comes from my own similar situation. I think if you're going to go talk to this girl, you should feel her out first. Don't come right out with the lovey dovey, find out where she's going with this first. Find out what she's learned from her time apart from you. If she comes out with something like she found someone else, then you'll know to be stoic and move on. I'm only saying this so you can save yourself a little embarrassment or awkwardness. Best of luck!1
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