I know I should be over him due to how he did me. Normal people probably wouldn't even be talking to their ex but I can't help it. . Everybody I've tried to date it doesn't work out or I lose interest because I find myself comparing them to my ex.
This is ruining my dating life because I'm still in love with my ex! Please help :(
Most Helpful Guy
First step you need to do is get him out of your life completely, you need to get rid of every picture every social thing every friend he knows. Because you need to get rid of him before you're going to forget about him if I seen one of my ex's from a serious relationship nowadays it would bring back memories I am over it thanks to getting rid of them but if I never did for all I know I'd keep thinking about them over and over again like you're doing.
Now next step is get busy, this doesn't mean you need to start dating you can avoid that if it makes you think of him instead do things that doesn't make you think of him such as like sports or activities maybe make a goal for the gym to reach a certain weight or get a set of abs or who knows get some muscles on your arms or see if you can reach a certain weight squating who knows those type of things can benefit you and keep your mind off him as you think about yourself and you will help rebuild confidence to yourself and will help you get to meet new people and enjoy your life without him and realize you can do it without him.
IF your stuck on the same pattern everyday and not enjoying yourself you're going to keep thinking back about the times you did enjoy yourself which will remind you of your ex and make you miss being with him.
So get rid of him and anything that might make you think of him or make you have to see him, treat him as someone you never met before a complete stranger for now on. Go get yourself busy and enjoy life and realize that you can be happy without him.
Good luck !
Most Helpful Girl
If he left you so easily after being together for 5 years, I consider it backstabbing. How can u still love him? Start listing the things you hate about him and the things you love about yourself. Its high time you did that.