I broke up with my ex because she dressed like a slut. How am I the bad guy?

She was stupid enough to wear a dress which when light falls on it, is a see through. To make matters worse, that dumb bitch didn't wear a bra. I took her to an expensive place which had lighting. I was more fucking embarrassed than her. I had to leave cancelling my reservation I made days ago, and people were whistling and passing mean comments outside. the bitch deserved every bit of humiliation whereas I never deserved my day to go that way. I told her to take a taxi home, and she keeps calling me ever since. well now her friends have spread rumors around that I'm a bad jerk, where clearly I never did anything wrong. How am I bad?
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I'm done responding to feminists here. also, people who judge me for name calling, please remember her friends do the same in real life to me. and for the people who actually saw this in a general point of view. thank yyou

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  • I believe that if you really respected her and Loved her, you could have handled things a bit differently. And with the 'see through,' it is even More See through to me that you both were most likely having toil and trouble in paradise way before this War of the Roses etched in stone With-----Reservations.
    You made your own bed when you Took her to this 'Expensive place.' You should have put your foot down and told her there was no way she was going Out in public to paint the town red embarrassed Red in this little number. And with this display, things got ugly and now she is calling you with a broken heart and you are reaching out for answers on GA, trying to shed some More light on the matter.
    Talk it out with her. If you both have any love and feeling left for each other, simply sit down and use open lines of communication with some compromise to solve this little dilly and the problems with the filly.
    Stop the boloney, stop the wagging tongues and kiss and make up and let's put this little sheer misunderstanding to bed.
    Good luck. xx

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    • Well her friends ruined it by spoiling my name around college. There's no way I'm getting back with her. at least you read the whole thing before commenting so thanks for your opinion

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    • This all new... it's not over, you will miss the kiss and be back with her.. xxoo

    • For now though I'm pretty happy being single.
      How come you didn't hate on me lol

  • You're an idiot. So she was showing off some skin. Have you NEVER gone outside shirtless? You've never been playing basketball with your buddies and went shirtless, or went swimming and were shirtless. You're always brainless, obviously. Who cares what she was wearing, if she's with you? She was dressing for you, obviously trying to turn you on. Or, and I know a LOT of women have done this, she wore it not realizing it was see-through. I've done it before, but I don't do it on purpose. If I like something, I'm gonna wear it, and if/when I realize it's see-through, yes, I'm embarrassed, but it's not something that I think about. I wear what I want. And who gives a fuck if a boob was visible? No bra? Wah. Cry me a river, build a bridge, then tie a cement block to your leg and jump off. Try to swim. You've obviously never worn shorts, never went shirtless, never wore a see-through tee shirt, or anything like that, because you're so perfect. Right? Why are men allowed to go out wearing whatever the hell they want, but women are supposed to cover themselves forehead to floor? Fuck men like you. If I want to go outside completely nude (which I'd never do that, too shy, not the point) I'll fucking do it. My boobs are just like yours: Only better to look at. If I have to be exposed to fat, ugly manboobs, you should have to deal with beautiful female boobs. Grow up, dude.

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    • that was beautiful, thank you. one who gets it ;-)

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    • Well, remember women used to cover up even their feet a long time back. you've made progress. if your wish is to see girls walk around topless like guys do, whether you like it or not, it will happen.

    • I didn't say I would want women to walk around topless. I'm saying I'd like it to be acceptable instead of frowned upon. I want women and men to be equal. Men to open doors for women, and women to open doors for men. Men to go topless, women to go topless. Men to cry, women to cry. Why do only women get special treatment like we're weak and useless, and men have to be like stone and never have emotion? Can't we all just be the same. Yea, you have a dick, I have boobs, but who gives a flying monkey? Physical differences are nothing more than physical. Why should men and women be socially acceptable to act/dress/talk in certain ways?

  • So you asked a girl who you know dresses provocatively out and yet you called her a slut. You keep referring to her as a "Bitch" and yet you keep telling us you're not a bad guy while in reality it makes you seem like a dickhead. You said she's your ex however it seems you guys went on one date?
    I doubt you ever had a girlfriend and I feel like this whole scenario is made up.

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    • 1. she's not on this site
      2. she's basically doing the same name calling to me, only in real life, where people's judgement actually matter
      3. if you think it's made up, great. there's no use of you replying to "made up" "scenarios"

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    • Well as you fail to see, I've told you probably in every one of my replies here to stop replying. so it's not really me who is either insulting you, or trying to prolong a very very pointless argument. I can say stop replying again, but seeing how adamant you are to insult me, go ahead.

  • And did you even tell her why you were upset and why you're ignoring her now? I'm assuming no. Which kind of makes you the bitch here.

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  • I've worn stuff before that I didn't realize was see-through until a while later. Like you said, it was only when the light hit.

    The problem with you is that you never told her what the problem was. You chose to take the passive-aggressive route.

    P. S. There's actually a lot of guys that like it when they're girlfriend dresses sexy or shows skin.

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    • I love it when my girlfriend dresses sext, it's just that you know I wasn't expecting that dress in that Place, well I overreacted I guess, I just got too mad. Thanks for putting across your point of view without hating

    • Sexy*

  • Did you at least tell her what you thought about what she was wearing? Because that's what adults do, instead of playing ridiculous games like this. If she cared about your opinion she likely would have changed her clothes. If she dresses like that all the time though, you probably should have never been with her in the first place if you have such a huge problem with it, like why would you have even wasted your time?

    Sounds like you don't respect her very much anyways, so you did the right thing by leaving her. Now she can go find someone better.

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    • MH for life!!

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    • My last comment was supposed to be to the ASKER!
      NOT the OPINION OWNER! this site is so confusing they could have just used our screen names

    • @Bitmap: No worries, I figured that out as I read the comment.

  • I don't know why everyone is upset you dumped her. Personally I'm very happy for her that she got away from you.

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  • You did the right thing, i don't like girls like that either, most like the one you mentioned are feminists, that would stick their horns out if you would hit her in self defense.

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    • There are a lot of feminazis around here. Thank you for seeing this issue in a general point of view. I'm sure you'd get downvoted for this but this is the answer I was looking for.

  • So what boo boo let her show what her Mama gave her. I would have shook my tits to get all the waiter to come at me

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    • I'm being serious, go away troll

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    • Well no1 told u to have a 60 years old gf. Her droopy tits is the shape of a tear drop, and will obviously get u to have tears in ur eyes and embarras u boo boo

    • Ok that made me laugh, but go away now

  • Unlike the rest , i agree with what you did. She clearly knew it was see through and shouldn't have put that on knowing you were taking her out. I understand she probably wanted to look nice for you but she shouldn't do it that way.

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  • "She was stupid enough", "That dumb bitch didn't wear a bra" , "That bitch deserved every bit of humiliation"

    Just the way u talk about her shows how u never really cared about her, one slight problem she did (and maybe she was not aware of it in the first place) and u flipped upside down treating her like she's ur worst enemy.

    I do agree dressing like that is really bad, i would be very pissed myself if my gf (someone i really care about) dresses like that in Public. But that's not the way u address a problem at all bro, u did it in the worst possible way.

    U noticed her wearing like that then first of all U ASK her; Did u realize ur boobs will show when u dressed like that? maybe she didn't know, and if she did maybe because she liked u too much that she wanted to impress u or turn u on (but if she already knew then it just implies she's not very smart).

    When that happens u just tell her how u feel, and that u don't want to see her dressing like that again. If she insists to dress like that then that's when u leave her.

    Telling her to take a taxi home was very rude of u and that probably hurt her bad. I'm surprised she still called u, it only means she really likes u and wants to make up for it or even apologize.

    Take it easy and revise yourself, u both did something wrong but the important thing is that both of u understand how each one went wrong. The only way to do that is to talk with each other in a calm and respectful manner.

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  • maybe it was a mistake. if she was a slut, or didn't care about you, she wouldn't call. and, honestly, even celebrities make that mistake some times dude, and the clothing designers get in Big trouble too.
    How are you bad, ok, we live in a society of excess, and people have nothing better to do than look for imperfection and perfection. every girl wants a man that'll walk their dog for them and treat it all nicely even if you don't like dogs. Why? It's a sign, that you have patience, that your going to treat their kids well, instead of Jerking on the leash violently you coax and call the dog to you, and that you'll treat your kids the same way as well. girls expect us to treat Every situation like this, even when we're embarrassed, you don't think kids would embarrass you? or that a daughter would make the same mistake? Look at paris hilton, she's someone's daughter. Her dad didn't have, That conversation with her, in public, and she didn't talk to anybody about That conversation. But she embarrassed him. That didn't mean that he, her dad, had to just, loose it right then and there on her.
    It's hard but your going to have to learn to put things in their perspective, the girls that is. I didn't know that it could have even been a mistake till my wife told me one day, I thought it was all on purpose and that, lol they were just being sluts. weird huh?

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    • Good one

    • its my wife. she took the time to explain it to me. without her, i'd be like, well. probably a lot worse than you dude.

  • You could've told her that you can see everything through.. she probably wanted to change then and you could've had a nice evening. Sending her home with the taxi and calling her names like "dumb bitch" or "slut" makes you a jerk. Perhaps it wasn't smart of her to choose a dress that shows through, but she didn't do it on purpose and probably wasn't even aware.

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    • I never called her those names before she and her friends started rumours about me man. And everyone believes them because I'm a guy up against 5 girls, and also because I dated her

    • Yeah shit like that happens.. maybe you didn't call her like that but you do write it in this message.. so you kinda look like a jerk if you choose that language.

      But just call her up, apologise for being rude and explain what was bothering you. If she is a nice girl you could take her out again (inspect clothing first).

  • I don't think you ever loved that girl. You could have discussed with her outside that expensive place and never entered it. Dumping this way was absolutely disgusting and i condemn this act.

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  • She was "dressing"i could maybe understand but because she "dressed"sounds one time bra. It seems you can't/couldn't communicate maturely with her man. Dumping a girl based on one event you've mentioned here is quite chilling cold to be frank with ya.

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    • It was the breaking point actually, there were a lot of things going on before this

  • I actually like it when my ex gf dressed sexy, if she chooses to, i have enough confidence to say that i know who she has sex with and that's me ;-). Being so conservative about it is your archaic outlook on society, the way you talk about her shows that you have no respect for her. you could have told her that she dressed wrong because of the "dresscode" required by the restaurant or wherever the fuck you were going. this misogynistic bullshit is getting on my nerves, just like blockheaded traditionalists that are still a reason out society is not able to make the final leap forward.

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    • Yea let's go around naked and call people who object to it misogynist.

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    • Stop replying to every other question then

    • I strongly agree with this.

  • There are less excessive ways to resolve conflicts, you're an idiot and you clearly have zero understanding of the consequences of your actions.

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    • How should I have dealt with this?

    • By not breaking up over wearing clothing you "disapproved of in public", I guess?
      Although technically you're calling her a "dumb bitch". She honestly should have known better to even talk to you and waste her time.

  • You should have just asked her to wear something else when you saw her, but the fact that she was wearing that might have hinted at something else. Maybe you didn't spend enough time under the sheets who knows. Point is don't go to a expensive place knowing full well that she dressed like that and go in and send her off that way. I personally would have stayed at her house and made a nice meal and gotten my jam on if you know what I mean.

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    • It was a see through when light falls on it. It looked normal when I picked her up. and well I didn't see her for a week maybe so I picked the perfect place to take her to, you know for what.

    • Ok but when you first noticed this did you ever ask her why she chose to wear the clothes she did? You still should have taken her with you when you left even if you were embarrassed what how would you have felt if something had happened to her?

  • At the end of the fucking day, she's gonna be with you and not those 10000000 guys that checks her out. The problem isn't with how she dresses it's with you. You can't stand it cause you're still insecure. Guys will check her out regardless.

    It's great that you broke up with her, you're not a bad guy. Now she could move on and find someone who could handle her.

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  • You are wrong. Was her clothing inappropriate, yes, however nobody deserves to get catcalled. You should have been more sympathetic instead of taking the side of the lustful men who eyed her. And you also should not have broken up with her or called her a "bitch" on here. She did not mean you any harm. I think you should apologize.

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