My ex broke up with me because he felt I hurt him.. it's been a couple of months and we have still been around each other. He txts me everyday lately.. before we wld have sex at least 3xs a mth, but since I asked him about us he tells me he's not ready to be in a relationship with not just me but in general. I've told him if he cnt commit than ima leave but he tells me not to. Since he cnt commit i no longer have sex with him. He still kisses me. Apart of me feels maybe because i really hurt him he would like to take it slow and maybe having sex will make us bond even more (when we were together we wldnt have sex since I promised myself to do It when I was ready) now that we aren't together i gave it to him. Do you'll think what I'm doing is right. Or is stopping going to make us further apart?
Should I make him define the relationship or continue to have sex with him?
What Guys Said 4
@viperkiss he said it best " sex is not a tool." Spot on. You should not be using sex as a tool.
Ever hear this saying - Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?
If he doesn't want a relationship and you keep giving him sex, he is going to keep taking it. What you are doing is hoping that continuing the sex will get him into a relationship. Which is not the way to go about this and setting yourself up for failure.0
You are either together or not and I think not at the moment. So why would you be having sex?
I don't understand women have sex with guys that they have been in a relationship with and then it is in trouble or over, but they carry on. How confusing is that to everyone, because sex releases all these confusing hormones. He needs to get his act together and decide if you are together or not.0
How did you hurt him, apparently.0
What Girls Said 1
If he can't commit don't waste your time, you deserve someone who loves you and will be with you unconditional.1
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