So my ex broke up with me and said we could remain friends. I didn't like that idea at first, but had no choice since we are somewhat in the same circles.
After 2 months of NC, I saw her at an event. I was nervous about approaching her to say hello, but the encounter was amicable enough, if not awkward. I saw her again at another event about a week later and she invited me to sit at her table. We had a friendly chat until this dude came over and started hitting on her right in front of me. He knew I dated her and that we were broken up. Technically, there was nothing I could do, but I still thought it rude on his part. It also seemed like ex was enjoying the attention (I don't think they actually went out). The whole thing really hurt, but since she was no longer my girl, I could do nothing but put up a brave face. To be honest, I was hoping I could ease my way back into a reconciliation, ever so slowly.
However, that whole scene made me angry, jealous, and confused. I then went out and socialized with other girls. This got back to my ex and when I saw her a month later (that dude was still hanging around her, trying to pick her up), my ex acted very rudely and cold to me when I said hello. I basically ruined my chances of getting back with her by being seen with other women. But, then again, she was the one who broke us up, said we could be friends and seemed to be flirting with another dude in my presence.
I don't see my ex much now, but that dude is still coming around since he is friendly with some of my friends. I try to be civil, but there is always this underlying tension between us. Part of me wants to knock his teeth out because if he hadn't approached my ex in front of me, she and I may have had a chance again. Maybe, maybe not. Another part of me thinks that if it wasn't him, it would have been someone else and that my ex is ultimately responsible for the fallout.
but, what about the gossipy female friends who told my ex about me and other girls? is it ok to be cold to them, one in particular. she is not my friend, but i see her here and there. i don't even know if she is really my ex's friend as i am sure she took joy out of telling my ex i was with other girls.
all this happened AFTER my ex dumped me, mind you.
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The guy was foul for interrupting your chat with your ex to flirt with her. I mean, prior to his approach, as far he could tell, you could have been in the process of reconciling with her or discussing an important issue. As such, his intrusion was inappropriate and perhaps disrespectful.
Anyway, I am convinced you should let it slide. If she wanted to reconcile with you, she would have disallowed his advances and considered your feelings.
Move on, man, to better things. Let them have each other.1