I'm currently in my first serious relationship and everything is going great, so the question is not about me.
Back when I was still a teenager, this guy broke up with my best friend; he kept egging her on to have sex (she wanted to wait until marriage and told him that from the start) and when he finally realized she wasn't going to budge, he dumped her for some other woman.
When they split, he actually came to her house to pick up all the presents he has given her over the course of the relationship (be it birthday gifts or plain out of the blue surprises). She didn't plan on keeping them anyway and was boxing everything up to go to his and drop it off, but what happened was that he actually called and ASKED her to return everything, then came down and picked up the box.
Yep, he asked her to return menial things like plush toys, some articles of clothing and a necklace that wasn't really worth anything, but had sentimental value.
Really, dude? Congratulations on winning the biggest douche of the universe award.
I've parted with many friends over the years and never did it cross my mind to call them and ask for stuff back that I've given them for their birthdays and such. That's just really shitty, you know?
If you break up, do you keep the gifts that were given to you? Do you return them? Throw them away? Does it depend on the type of gift?
I think if you bought something for your gf/bf like an engagement ring or car or something equally expensive, then they broken up with you a week later, it's reasonable to ask for it back.
If I were to break up with my boyfriend, I'd return all the expensive gifts, because it just wouldn't feel right keeping them. And based on how we parted (good terms or bad) I'd either keep the smaller gifts or throw them away.
What are your thoughts?
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Well I've never had a gf but that seems kinda pathetic. I could understand if it was like a car, maybe a family heirloom but cheap stuff like clothes or stuffed animals, that's just sad.
Personally I'd just let her keep everything unless like I said it was a car, but I'm not really not the type of guy that would buy a girl car. I'd go for low-med value gifts with some sort of meaning/sentimenal value.
Would I keep the gifts she bought me?
Eh, well I'm not real big on getting gifts. I like money so I can pick out what I want. It really depends on how the relationship ended.
If we grew apart and it was a mutual thing I'd keep them in a box for the memories. I'd try to keep them out of sight/out of mind so that I could move on more easily but I don't think I'd trow them away.
However if she had cheated on me, I'd either burn the gifts, throw them away, sell them
put them in a box, go over to her place, hand her the box and tell her to shove it :)1
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