My bf broke up with me due to assuming I cheated on him and now he says I hurt him and eventually that he has moved past it.. but he still doesn't want to be with me and says I like the attn and every time I talk to a guy he gets jealous and says I must enjoy the attn. I really do love him and I have told him how i feel and how i wnt hurt him but it's easier said than done. So I'm wondering how long does it take for him to realize I didn't mean to hurt him.. that he can trust me again.. it's been 4mths since we've been broken up.. we are still around each other he still kisses me.. but he says he's not ready for a relationship right now. So someone please help me how long do you think it's normal for him to not trust me? What can I do? He tells me not to force anythi that's why I dnt show him things to show him I still like him except for hug him and text him I'm still interested.. someone please help
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Trust takes a long time to achieve and is lost in a second. Unless you can explain to him that the assumption he made was wrong, then he will not trust you again.
If he is convinced already, he may not want to listen.
I know where he is coming from and often it is better to be alone than in a relationship where you can't trust the other person.
Interestingly we always start with new people in a position trust normally and it is events, behaviour and lies that make us lose trust. On the other hand , we also all make mistakes and if it is flirting and jealousy then sometimes modifying behaviour not to flirt to the extent where it is disrespectful to a partner can be enough. The only solution is to talk with him about why he lost trust. What was incorrect in his mind and assure him that you understand how he feels and if it is possible, that it can be avoided in the future. Only then may he start to trust again. But one slip and all is gone.0
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