So i split with my ex after 7 years a couple months ago because she said she's not in love with my anymore. After a few weeks she contacted me and said she wanted to see how things go and take it slow. After 2 weeks of this i asked if we were actually together but this seemed to scare her off and she called it quits but after a couple weeks from that she came back again and said she knows she want me now etc but i told her i wanted her to make sure this time so we spoke and met a couple times and then had an argument because it felt like she was treating me as just a friend and if thats the case id rather her distance herself till she's sure. She decided to leave again and told me that she thinks she's been coming back out of comfort and is scared to be on her own, she's not in love with me, she wants to move on and knows that this is what we need to do now... This happened a few days ago and we haven't spoke since. I really don't know if this is it this time or if she's gonna come back again, tbh it seems she wants what she can't have. Its my birthday tomorrow and she's still got a week booked off work from when we were meant to spend it together so I'm hoping that it will hit her as much as its going to hit me and shell come back during this time but maybe I'm just wishful thinking. I don't think shell even message me on my birthday and if she does i don't know if i should even reply. I really do love this girl more then anything and i don't want to lose her. Can anyone give some advice on what i should do and if they think this is really it?
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7 years is a long time, if she was already prepared to throw it out of the window the first time saying she's not in love with you anymore, that's a first big clue. she probably thought of giving it another try cause she suddenly freaked out at the idea of being alone and single (if you've been in a relationship for 7 years, that's tuff shit to deal with).. but not because she 'realized' in 2 weeks that she loves you again. she even admitted that 'she thinks she's been coming back out of comfort and is scared to be on her own, she's not in love with me, she wants to move on'.. what else do you need to know? it's over, be strong and move on. you'll find someone who will be into you for the right reasons, not because of fear of loneliness. and don't be afraid of loneliness yourself either!0